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I had an experience the other day that was really frustrating and brought to mind a question. I was in the womens' restroom at a public park with my two five year old boys and my 2 year old boy. A young girl, who was maybe 8, went outside and told her father who was waiting for her that there were boys in the restroom and she was afraid. When we came out, the father confronted me about my boys being in the womens' room...saying something to the effect of "the sign says women, they ought not be in there". They are only 5, sir, I said. He proceeded to say "I don't care how old they are, they aren't allowed in there." Which brings up the question...how old is too old to have boys go into the womens room with mom? I really don't feel safe sending them into the mens room unattended at their current age....not knowing who is in there (a pedophile, who knows?)...and also not being able to go in if they should need my help at some point.
The proper response is "thanks for your concern, we will be done in a moment". The idiot can wait outside if he wants to be a jerk.
How do you think I feel, my son is 9 almost 10. He is almost as tall as me but he has to come with me in the women's public restroom. He has Asperger's Syndrome and the sound of public toilets flushing terrifies him. He will cover his ears and start crying. I get nasty looks all of the time, but what am I to do? He won't go into a men's room by himself. I keep hoping he will grow out of it, but I've learned some people with Autism disorders never do. When we go out and says he has to go to the bathroom I always ask if he can hold it until we get home. Sometimes he says yes, but sometimes it's no (especially if it's not pee) I just hope people who give dirty looks or say nasty things about kids of the opposite sex being in the restroom could be in the parent's shoes and realize that they might not have a choice.
How do you think I feel, my son is 9 almost 10. He is almost as tall as me but he has to come with me in the women's public restroom. He has Asperger's Syndrome and the sound of public toilets flushing terrifies him. He will cover his ears and start crying. I get nasty looks all of the time, but what am I to do? He won't go into a men's room by himself. I keep hoping he will grow out of it, but I've learned some people with Autism disorders never do. When we go out and says he has to go to the bathroom I always ask if he can hold it until we get home. Sometimes he says yes, but sometimes it's no (especially if it's not pee) I just hope people who give dirty looks or say nasty things about kids of the opposite sex being in the restroom could be in the parent's shoes and realize that they might not have a choice.
The guy was an idiot. There is NO way in this day in age that I'd let a 5 yr old in a restroom himself personally. I know at a walmart around here an 8 yr old was assulted in a public restroom WTF? My child is 6.5 and I take him with ME into the women's if I am without my husband. I dont care what people say or look at me. F-it. How old is too old? Im not sure when I'll allow it? maybe 18 LOL.
depends on where we are i still sometimes take my 9 and 11 year old boys in with me. they don't need to see men standing at urinals exposed, no thank u. just ignore peoples stupid comments do what is best for you and yours.
depends on where we are i still sometimes take my 9 and 11 year old boys in with me. they don't need to see men standing at urinals exposed, no thank u. just ignore peoples stupid comments do what is best for you and yours.
I agree with most of your sentiment, but what do you think goes on in the mens room?
Do you think we all just walk around with our johnsons in hand holding informal "who's bigger" contest?
Rule #1 of urinal etiquette - You don't want to see mine and I don't want to see yours.
How do you think I feel, my son is 9 almost 10. He is almost as tall as me but he has to come with me in the women's public restroom. He has Asperger's Syndrome and the sound of public toilets flushing terrifies him. He will cover his ears and start crying. I get nasty looks all of the time, but what am I to do? He won't go into a men's room by himself. I keep hoping he will grow out of it, but I've learned some people with Autism disorders never do. When we go out and says he has to go to the bathroom I always ask if he can hold it until we get home. Sometimes he says yes, but sometimes it's no (especially if it's not pee) I just hope people who give dirty looks or say nasty things about kids of the opposite sex being in the restroom could be in the parent's shoes and realize that they might not have a choice.
Same here, but my AS kid isn't afraid of the flushing. *I* am afraid that even at 10, he does not have the social skills (including "reading" a situation or a person's actions) to be aware of any possible "danger" in the men's restroom. I usually stand outside the door of the men's room, listening intently, but wish that EVERY place offered a family restroom where I knew he would at least be alone in there, not with other (grown) men. I think he started going in the men's room by himself when he was 8-9, but he is also high-functioning so not as severe as some others.
FWIW... I don't care about kids of either gender in the ladies room. If I had such severe modesty issues as to not want anyone to possible see any of me through the slight gap in a metal stall.. I wouldn't want other women looking at me either and I would wait until I got home!
I agree with most of your sentiment, but what do you think goes on in the mens room?
Do you think we all just walk around with our johnsons in hand holding informal "who's bigger" contest?
Rule #1 of urinal etiquette - You don't want to see mine and I don't want to see yours.
What goes on in the men's room... is that you DO kind of have to expose yourself without the privacy of a door and a stall (okay- if you are using the urinals, I mean..), which kinda grosses us women out, since we do ALL of our business in the stalls provided, with the door closed and locked. Not that you are showing off in there, but you're showing off a lot more than the women do...
(And totally OT, I have always wondered why that is... are urinals cheaper to install, or just easier for men to use? )
You shouldn't let someone else's discomfort undermine protecting your own child. When you're ready to let him go alone, you'll know. I don't understand how taking a young boy to the ladies would be an issue for people to begin with. The parent makes a beeline to the stall, the little boy does his business and no one sees anything. It would be a totally different situation if a parent brought a young girl into the mens room with open urinals- I would have an issue with that.
I agree. If a little boy was peeking underneath the stall door (in fact, if anyone was peeking under the stall door) I'd have an issue with them, regardless of their age. As long as the little ones are not invading my personal stall space, I don't care about such things. It's a petty thing to be concerned with really.
Mothers are just trying to protect their children from creeps and germs... OR there could be other development issues (perhaps the little boy is autistic and doesn't know how to use the bathroom on his own).
Also, I'd have to wonder about a man who would be confrontational to a mother with three children.
(And totally OT, I have always wondered why that is... are urinals cheaper to install, or just easier for men to use? )
They're closer to us, we don't have to mess with the up/down toilet seat hassle, and they don't waste a ton of water like a toilet does. I've always wondered why toilets aren't offered with an adjustable water volume for the bowl. We(male and female), waste a lot of water when flushing our urine in a toilet bowl.
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