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View Poll Results: Parents: If you had the choice and could afford it, would you work or stay at home and take care of
I would still work 11 22.45%
I would become a stay at home parent 37 75.51%
Not sure 1 2.04%
Voters: 49. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 07-30-2009, 04:31 PM
 
Location: somewhere in the south
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If you had the choice and could afford it, would you rather work or stay at home and take care of the home and the children?
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Old 07-30-2009, 04:41 PM
 
Location: SE Florida
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If my kids were not of school age, I would stay home. I was fortunate that I was able to do that. Once in school, the perfect gig would allow me to work around their schedule. I haven't been able to do that for a number of years, but have a job with a degree of flexibility, so I'm not complaining!

For those women who would prefer a paid job when having little ones, I think that is good, too. What is important, IMO, is that the options are there to choose what is best for us and our families. This applies to dads, too.
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Old 07-30-2009, 04:45 PM
 
Location: North Pinellas
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It would be the best privilege to be able to be a "stay at home mom"! I think though that the difference in choice would be those that are more career focused and those that are family focused. Either way you can still be a great parent but I personally would love to be at the school to pick up my child, be able to go to every event that is at the school during "normal work hours" and then be able to hang out for the rest of the evening with them.
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Old 07-30-2009, 05:31 PM
 
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Stay at home!
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Old 07-30-2009, 05:46 PM
 
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I was a stay home mom for years and financially we are suffering from it. But, we had no options (no relatives willing to babysit).

I don't regret doing it. I have one son and now I look forward to finding full time work (I have been looking for almost a year. Last year I did a 6 months long temp job).

We need 2 incomes to live any sort of life and my husband is sacrificing working nights so I can work days.

My advice to moms considering staying home is WORK part time...keep a foot in the work world, even if it is one or two days a week. Getting back into the swing and having people take me seriously, despite my education and experience is VERY hard.
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Old 07-30-2009, 07:11 PM
 
Location: TN
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i would love to be a full time stay at home mom...right now I work 3 days a week, which isn't bad compared to some, i know, but I still feel like I miss out on alot.
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Old 07-30-2009, 07:44 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I have that choice, and we decided that we would MAKE it work affordability-wise,
and I am a stay-at-home!
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Old 07-30-2009, 07:49 PM
 
Location: home
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I stay at home and we manage quite well but I hate it! I am actively seeking part time employment just to get out of the house. I need my own time and my own independent activities. Some adult contact every now and then would be great too.

It was great to stay at home when my kids were babies and I am glad that I didnt miss out on their first steps, words, ect.
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Old 07-30-2009, 07:58 PM
 
Location: here
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I suppose in a perfect world I would stay home forever and devote my time to volunteering once the kids are in school. "Affording" it is a matter of opinion, to a point. I stay home now and we can afford it for now. But I will need to go back in a few years if we are to have any sort of retirement savings or pay for college for the kids. I'm sure Suze Orman woulds say we can't afford it because we don't have 8 months worth of savings. So, really, what does "afford it" mean? That is rhetorical. I don't expect an answer.
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Old 07-30-2009, 08:49 PM
 
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I was a stay at home mom for 7 years. I liked it for 2 years. I am a much better mother when I have outside interests, including my current part-time job in which I can contribute to society outside from my family. I did not enjoy staying at home with my children past the baby stage.
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