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I wouldn't allow my child to go into a house where someone is smoking. If the parents want to inhale toxic fumes, that's their right and their business, but they should do it outside. Smoking inside the home exposes their own child to second-hand smoke. Nothing you can do about that, but I wouldn't allow my child over, unless you came to an agreement that they would either not smoke while your child is there (unlikely), or that they would smoke outside.
But if they cannot take the trouble to smoke outside for the health and well-being of their own child, I doubt they will do it for anyone else's.
I am late with my opinion, but I will give it anyway just in case anyone else has the same question.
I am a smoker, I have kids, I smoke in my house....feel free to call me a bad parent.
When my kids have friends over, I never smoke in the house, it just doesn't feel right, they aren't my kids. I never smoke in my kids room or their playroom. I have my designated "smoking room" with a window and a fan in the window that is on with the exception of ~2 months of the year. I have tried to quit, have quit, have started again, quit again....the cycle continues and probably always will.
As for the ACS warnings, my son's IQ is 174, I was raised by 2 smokers in the era before anyone cared about ventilation and my IQ is 181. I guess we both would have been beyond genius had we not been exposed to cig smoke.
If anyone is that worried, I would recommend just asking the parent not to smoke while your child is in the home and saying that if that isn't possible then little suzy can come to our home. It will avoid all potential problems.
My parenting oddities? My kids eat organic(I even made my own baby food), I limit video game and movie ratings, we use an eco friendly pest company, etc. etc....when they are at friends houses I realize that all bets are off and a little bit of growth hormone or pesticide won't kill them. Their friendships are worth more than small amounts of exposure.
I wouldn't allow my child to go into a house where someone is smoking. If the parents want to inhale toxic fumes, that's their right and their business, but they should do it outside. Smoking inside the home exposes their own child to second-hand smoke. Nothing you can do about that, but I wouldn't allow my child over, unless you came to an agreement that they would either not smoke while your child is there (unlikely), or that they would smoke outside.
But if they cannot take the trouble to smoke outside for the health and well-being of their own child, I doubt they will do it for anyone else's.
You only have a few years of that kind of control. Make a huge deal out of it if you want, but when they get older you will have bigger concerns than whether they are in a house where someone smokes, or even if they smoke themselves. I knew someone with this attitude but when her kids experimented with drugs in high school she no longer had much to say on the subject.
You only have a few years of that kind of control. Make a huge deal out of it if you want, but when they get older you will have bigger concerns than whether they are in a house where someone smokes, or even if they smoke themselves. I knew someone with this attitude but when her kids experimented with drugs in high school she no longer had much to say on the subject.
Yes, I will make a "huge deal" out of the dangers of smoking, and the dangers of second-hand smoke, because smoking kills. I have the same attitude towards drugs.
My goal is to raise two drug-free, smoke-free people. So far, I have succeeded, as far as I know. Or rather, THEY have succeeded, I should say.
It is so funny that now most people are conditioned to smoke outside, are concerned about smoke ventilation, but back in the 60's & 70's no one cared, they never even seemed to care that smoke lingered in the house. Boy, that really sucked for us!!!
Actually the best thing was the no smoking in the office thing, my first job and some old lady's desk was next to mine and smoked all day long, talk about hell........
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