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Originally Posted by Mr.Momof3
I live in NY but of course even if you live in other similar city and moved b/c of children I'd appreciate your input as to why and how it worked out as well as if you have regrets. Thank you.
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I did not move from a big city because of kids but I did grow up in one and am now raising kids in a suburban/rural setting.
I lived in Manhattan from age 8 to 14. Our apartment was fairly large compared with many NY apartments, but it was still an apt, on the 15th floor. If my brother and I wanted to go out and play, our mom could walk us to the neighborhood playground, in the shadow of the Queensborough Bridge, and if I remember correctly, it was 100% asphalt - no grass.
I remember roller skating up and down the sidewalk in front of our building. And long walks from York Ave all the way over to Central Park (as a kid it felt like a long walk) to go to the carousel, have a picnic, etc....
My kids were running in the house today and rough housing, and I sent them outside to play. I thought about how that was a much more difficult option for my mom when my brother and I were kids.
The upsides - I grew up going to Broadway shows, going to the Met and the Whitney. It was an exciting place to live. The upper east side (where I lived) and the upper west side and the Village (where we spent some leisure time) had interesting things to offer. There were street fairs and funnel cakes. I went to a good school. I got to go horsebackriding in Central Park. Another upside - salt bagels with cream cheese from Barney Greengrass(we called it Moe's). And, as an adult, I got the jokes in Seinfeld that might have been lost on non-NYers (like if there is a parade and you need to get to the other side of the street you are screwed - like Elaine and the Puerto Rican Day parade) - obviously this is not worth anything but I sometimes watch reruns and wonder if people fully get some of the "only in NY" stuff. I'd say another upside was diversity, but I lived on the Upper East Side, and how diverse is that, right?
Raising a child in NYC and having those kinds of experiences is very expensive. Is it worth it? I don't know.
Weighing all of those memories, I am happy to raise my kids in a non-urban environment. They will have a very different childhood from me, but I don't think it will be worse off for missing out on some of the things I got to experience.