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I feel sorry for the kids who are angry about the whole Santa thing. Everybody's different, so none of us react the same way to the same thing. There's no telling why some people think Santa is harmless fun and others think it's a cruel lie.
So is anybody else feeling betrayed by their parents because they "lied" about Santa or is my son just weird?
No I feel fine about it.
I remember moving to an apartment at age 8 and my grandfather gave me this elaborate story about Santa being able to manipulate the laws of physics to get through the window. I had already started having my doubts by then, and I am pretty sure by age 9, I was "on to them". I never remember being upset about it at the time and am not now.
Our parents have plenty of other ways to screw up our lives. IMO if the Santa myth is the worst thing we ever do to our kids, they did pretty well.
I'd tell him to grow up and get over it. "Santa" is about the spirit of giving without expecting recognition. It's not about a fictitious entity IMHO as much as it is about the spirit of giving.
I'd tell him to grow up and get over it. "Santa" is about the spirit of giving without expecting recognition. It's not about a fictitious entity IMHO as much as it is about the spirit of giving.
What better way to teach children about giving than to give them a bunch of stuff?
What better way to teach children about giving than to give them a bunch of stuff?
Well yeah...if your kids are only on the receiving end, then obviously that doesn't work too well....if, on the other hand you teach that there is joy in giving as much as receiving, then it actually does work. Or, if you'd rather just spend the holidays sitting, grousing about traditions other people enjoy and being cynical, well, if you find that is a better teaching tool, then more power to you.
Well yeah...if your kids are only on the receiving end, then obviously that doesn't work too well....if, on the other hand you teach that there is joy in giving as much as receiving, then it actually does work.
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"Santa" is about the spirit of giving without expecting recognition. It's not about a fictitious entity IMHO as much as it is about the spirit of giving.
Maybe you know a different Santa myth than I do, but in mine Santa gives, kids take. Maybe there's a plate of cookies but the questions are "what do you want for Christmas" and "what did you get for Christmas".
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Or, if you'd rather just spend the holidays sitting, grousing about traditions other people enjoy and being cynical, well, if you find that is a better teaching tool, then more power to you.
I'm sure there are other options besides 'lie to kids' and 'sit and grouse'
Yes...we could, I suppose, sit home on Christmas, watching CNN and discussing the inequities of the world. The point is there are many ways to live one's life and raise one's children, so what's it to you if someone chooses something different than you might?
Either way, we are getting off topic. The OP asked about a situation with her son and if others felt betrayed or angry with their parents regarding Santa Clause. I enjoyed the magical feeling and so did my kids. If you felt lied to or that your parents were cruel for perpetuating the charm of the story then do feel free to elaborate.
Yes...we could, I suppose, sit home on Christmas, watching CNN and discussing the inequities of the world.
That would be ONE of the vast other options available. Not one of my top ten that'd I pick but it is an option.
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The point is there are many ways to live one's life and raise one's children, so what's it to you if someone chooses something different than you might?
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Either way, we are getting off topic. The OP asked about a situation with her son and if others felt betrayed or angry with their parents regarding Santa Clause. I enjoyed the magical feeling and so did my kids. If you felt lied to or that your parents were cruel for perpetuating the charm of the story then do feel free to elaborate.
Don't think they were cruel. Don't think it was necessary either.
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