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It sounds like she was dressed somewhat inappropriate, but there could be reasons for that (she dressed herself, the clothes are a bit too big, she had an accident and the school had to put on her whatever was available). I would say nothing though, because it is embarrassing to the parents and really none of your business - it may be inappropriate, but it does not put your child or the child wearing the clothes in harms way. Plus, as the father picked her up, presumably they know about it and are ok with it for whatever reason.
I do not know if the pants were low rise or they just were a little too big and falling down. But what I was trying to figure out is why her underwear wasn't showing. I know when my dd wears pants that are too big I can tell because her undies are showing.
I was debating whether to say something but since it was dad who picked her up I chickened out.
LOL. For some reason I would have felt more comfortable talking to her mother also.
This happens quite a bit with little kids. Its not a big deal. Now, if they're 12 and doing that, then, yeah, its a problem...or maybe they're just training to be a plumber...sorry, had to say it :-).
Now that you're discussing underwear too, I think you're a tad too focused on the way this child is dressed.
Maybe the girl wasn't wearing any underwear. So what. It's possible that she dresses herself.
She wouldn't be the first preschooler to forget to put on underwear when dressing herself.
Ok. I didn't think about that. I guess I check how my dd is dressed before leaving the house. BTW I like this little girl she is very friendly and she is my dd's friend. If I didn't care, I would not have given it a second thought.
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No, I wouldn't say anything - I've seen plumber buttocks on a 4yo in pre-school, but it was clear that the mother was trying to buy the "trendy" clothing, making her daughter a copy of herself (she was a very young mother).
This not the case with this little girl.
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This happens quite a bit with little kids. Its not a big deal.
Ok. I guess what I was thinking about this whole thing, is how would I want it handled by someone else if my dd was the one with the plumber buttocks. I would want to be told but at the same time I would be mortified.
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No, I would not have mentioned it. I would have just pulled my child out of the school. LOL
My very first thought, as another poster mentioned, was that the child had an accident at school and was either wearing her 'extra' clothes which no longer fit, or wearing whatever the center could find to put on her. That of course could mean they had no underwear to put on her.
Our health regs here state that we are not allowed to wash children's clothes when they've had an accident, so there must be a change of clothes. Since many parents don't bother to send extras, we had to keep a donated supply on hand and did the best we could with what we had.
The strangest thing was parents would send their kids to our center wearing the 'borrowed' clothes as if they were their own, including those pieces clearly marked in permanent marker with the center's name on it!
So, no as another parent it would not have been a good thing to mention it, especially without knowing why the child was wearing that and who put it on her.
I do not know if the pants were low rise or they just were a little too big and falling down. But what I was trying to figure out is why her underwear wasn't showing. I know when my dd wears pants that are too big I can tell because her undies are showing.
I was debating whether to say something but since it was dad who picked her up I chickened out.
That's pretty disgusting. I think you should hint to the mother that she should think about dressing her daughter more modestly.
My very first thought, as another poster mentioned, was that the child had an accident at school and was either wearing her 'extra' clothes which no longer fit, or wearing whatever the center could find to put on her. That of course could mean they had no underwear to put on her.
Our health regs here state that we are not allowed to wash children's clothes when they've had an accident, so there must be a change of clothes. Since many parents don't bother to send extras, we had to keep a donated supply on hand and did the best we could with what we had.
The strangest thing was parents would send their kids to our center wearing the 'borrowed' clothes as if they were their own, including those pieces clearly marked in permanent marker with the center's name on it!
So, no as another parent it would not have been a good thing to mention it, especially without knowing why the child was wearing that and who put it on her.
This is not a center but a pre-school. If the child has an accident and the parent has no clothes then they will call you to pick up.
I have to say I am happy I didn't say anything since so many people believe it is better not to say anything. Thank you CDers for your help.
Ok. I didn't think about that. I guess I check how my dd is dressed before leaving the house.
Not to put down fathers, but her father may be the one who gets her ready in the morning since he's the one who dropped her off.
He might not think about checking how his young children are dressed. My husband sure didn't!
I remember showing my husband how to put laundry away in 'outfits' so whatever the children pulled out of the drawer would already be matching.
He and my young boys had a good time making fun of me! LOL
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BTW I like this little girl she is very friendly and she is my dd's friend. If I didn't care, I would not have given it a second thought.
Then give it a month or two. See if it becomes an ongoing problem. Then revisit the best approach if you feel it should be addressed.
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