Some pretty awesome responses here. Thank you all!
Well, so I have NOT been texting him or calling him for like the past 3wks.
It kind of hit me after Christmas when he was so mean in that text to me....I guess the little kindnesses I did for him over the holiday and then
"WHAM"!!! He slapped me down and walked away so to speak.
I guess I had an epiphany that day.
About 2wks ago now, I did have a phone interaction with him. He called me from the school office with a problem. He had gotten his cell phone taken away AGAIN. He knows you cannot be caught touching your cell phone by the teacher or it gets absconded.
Being that he's had SO many offenses with this very same issue, this time the school secretary called me and said that she had his phone, it was taken away by one of his teachers and due to the fact that he's had SO many offenses, now the next step was that I or his other parent would have to COME IN and retrieve the phone FOR HIM.
I told her something like..."well, I am sorry but I can't help with that today, he'll have to call his dad"
About 10 min later, son calls me. He was cordial and nice of course, remember...he NEEDS my help here. He NEEDS something from me.
Here's basically how it went after the 'hellos':
son: I need you to do me a favor, they took my phone away, it fell out of my pocket in class and the teacher took it. I am not in trouble or anything but I just need you to come to the school office at 12:50 today, cuz that's when I get out...and get my phone for me.
me: Um, I am sorry _______, but I can't do that right now for you.
son: What do you mean? Why not?
me: Um, I just can't help you out today with that. You will have to call your father.
son: But my dad doesn't have a car.....
me: I don't know what to tell you, you'll have to figure something else out, or call your dad. I have to go now.
AND I HUNG UP THE PHONE! He ended up redialing my number over and over like 5 times before giving up.
I felt uneasy and like I was being mean but that is expected as I was not letting myself fall for his 'using of me'.
I felt like he needed to learn a lesson! If I rescued him by picking it up, he's not learning a thing, except that 'mommy' will save the day! He knows to not touch his phone in class! With his lying history, I assumed he was lying about it 'falling out of his pocket'....that's a pretty common excuse.
I, to this day, have not spoken with him since. Nor have I texted him. (other than to say hooray!! when the Saints made the playoffs
)
My silence is not normal for me...and I am sure he notices it. He may very well be angry at me too, for not 'rescuing' him! But, oh well.
Tough love. S*cks.