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If he agreed to pay 50% of the college costs, tell him if she doesn't have transportation, next semester she will need money for a dorm and a food plan. Maybe he will see the light!
If he agreed to pay 50% of the college costs, tell him if she doesn't have transportation, next semester she will need money for a dorm and a food plan. Maybe he will see the light!
A lot of the responsibility lays in the daughter's hands. She decided on a college where she would need transportation. Why doesn't she take out loans like everybody else does? There are grants, etc. that help as well. She can stay in a dorm and work part time.
A lot of the responsibility lays in the daughter's hands. She decided on a college where she would need transportation. Why doesn't she take out loans like everybody else does? There are grants, etc. that help as well. She can stay in a dorm and work part time.
To be fair to the OP and her daughter, I can see why she'd ask. Let's say the OP doesn't have a lot of money, her ex has money to spare (not clear if he does or not), the OP wishes she could buy a car for her daughter, and is frustrated that her ex won't help out. I think that if a parent can afford to buy a car for his or her child and wants to do so then there's nothing wrong with that, but I think it's also fine (and an equally valid parenting decision) to choose not to do, either, regardless of whether the parent has the money or not.
Now if the daughter is demanding a car then she could qualify for princess status, but at this point we've only heard from a mother who wants to help out her kid.
That would require forethought. They believed all they needed was a judge to interpret the terms of the divorce in her favor.
Reality bites.
Maybe they've been divorced since the child was two and this issue was unforseen back then???
Look, this is a mom, on a limited budget trying to make sure her daughter can go to college. I'm sure it is a great disappointment to her that her ex doesn't seem to care about HOW the kid gets to school and was hoping he's help share the cost, there is nothing wrong with that. And the truth is, whichever parent a kid lives with is usually the parent who gets screwed on expenses - as child support never covers everything.
Maybe they've been divorced since the child was two and this issue was unforseen back then???
Look, this is a mom, on a limited budget trying to make sure her daughter can go to college. I'm sure it is a great disappointment to her that her ex doesn't seem to care about HOW the kid gets to school and was hoping he's help share the cost, there is nothing wrong with that.
I didn't mean it should have been specified in a divorce that happened who knows how long ago. I meant that when the daughter was in HS, thinking about where to go to college, "how will I get there" should have been thought of and discussed. But I also think it would be nice of dad to pitch in, even if it is a loan, or the daughter, mom, and dad, all go in together, or whatever.
Maybe they've been divorced since the child was two and this issue was unforseen back then???
Look, this is a mom, on a limited budget trying to make sure her daughter can go to college. I'm sure it is a great disappointment to her that her ex doesn't seem to care about HOW the kid gets to school and was hoping he's help share the cost, there is nothing wrong with that. And the truth is, whichever parent a kid lives with is usually the parent who gets screwed on expenses - as child support never covers everything.
Fathers can't be on limited budget? He is paying for 1/2 of her college isn't he?
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