If you were a better mother....... (punish, tantrum, school, raising)
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Tell that to my 14 year old . She keeps telling me it's MY house so I should clean it. Doesn't work but she keeps trying. Somehow this makes sense in her mind.
Mine is 16. When I ask her why not help out, she always comes back with, "But you always do it, how am I supposed to know that you want me to?" To her credit though, she does do some things, like yesterday she cleaned the entire bathroom, including the toilet. She thought she would melt or something, but she didn't.
IvoryTickler & NoExcuses. I don't get it either. Sometimes the kids act like they're doing you a favor when they pick up THEIR stuff, even after they've been told a couple of times.
How about this, do your's pick up their stuff to take to their rooms, then simply set it down somewhere in the next room? That's a famous one around here...and then that item will sit there for a week!
Having several kids, I find it ironic that they can see the other kids' messes, and yet don't see theirs at all. "ME? He needs to come and pick HIS stuff up. It's all OVER the place!" Yet, what the grumbling child isn't seeing?...is that he has 14 things laying around the room, the one he's grumbling about took off his shoes, socks, and left his bookbag in the room! Kids! God love 'em!
IvoryTickler & NoExcuses. I don't get it either. Sometimes the kids act like they're doing you a favor when they pick up THEIR stuff, even after they've been told a couple of times.
How about this, do your's pick up their stuff to take to their rooms, then simply set it down somewhere in the next room? That's a famous one around here...and then that item will sit there for a week!
Having several kids, I find it ironic that they can see the other kids' messes, and yet don't see theirs at all. "ME? He needs to come and pick HIS stuff up. It's all OVER the place!" Yet, what the grumbling child isn't seeing?...is that he has 14 things laying around the room, the one he's grumbling about took off his shoes, socks, and left his bookbag in the room! Kids! God love 'em!
Putting stuff at the bottom of the stairs is a famous one around here. I say "take it upstairs now" and I get "I'll take it up when I go up there" now I have learned, after things will sit there and they pass by them 100 times up and down the stairs, to say " No you will take it up now".
Tell that to my 14 year old . She keeps telling me it's MY house so I should clean it. Doesn't work but she keeps trying. Somehow this makes sense in her mind.
Yeah, that would fly about as well as a turd with wings in my house.
But, I might just give them what they want to make a point.
We'd have a It's MY House Celebration Day...starting off with, get off my couch, turn off my TV, that's my bathroom (after all, I cleaned it) but I'll give you that bush in the backyard, those are my dishes, that's my soda, that dog is mine too....I hope you enjoy MY day!!
Something similar worked very well when I had asked my 11 yo to get forks out of the dishwasher for breakfast. She complained (while moaning and rolling eyes) "I do all the work around here!!!" I gave her just what she suggested was true...all the work in the house for the day. She didn't even make it to lunch before breaking down. LOL....give 'em what they want or what they think is reality, it works most of the time. It's been 4 years and she's NEVER said anything like that to me again.
give 'em what they want or what they think is reality,
That works well for a lot of things. When my DD (the oldest) would complain about her younger brother not having as many chores as she did, that it wasn't "FAIR", I just calmly asked if she really wanted everything to be "equal" (which is what she meant by fair)....of course she said "YES!". I said OK, they proceeded to take away the privileges that went along with being older (being able to go somewhere by herself, being allowed to have friends over, use the telephone etc etc). The fun of "equal" didn't last too long!
That works well for a lot of things. When my DD (the oldest) would complain about her younger brother not having as many chores as she did, that it wasn't "FAIR", I just calmly asked if she really wanted everything to be "equal" (which is what she meant by fair)....of course she said "YES!". I said OK, they proceeded to take away the privileges that went along with being older (being able to go somewhere by herself, being allowed to have friends over, use the telephone etc etc). The fun of "equal" didn't last too long!
That is too funny. My DD used to pull that one a lot too. She is 5 years older than her brother but expected him to have the same exact chores she did, but when I suggested the same thing (having equal privileges), well then that was a different story.
That is too funny. My DD used to pull that one a lot too. She is 5 years older than her brother but expected him to have the same exact chores she did, but when I suggested the same thing (having equal privileges), well then that was a different story.
IvoryTickler & NoExcuses. I don't get it either. Sometimes the kids act like they're doing you a favor when they pick up THEIR stuff, even after they've been told a couple of times.
How about this, do your's pick up their stuff to take to their rooms, then simply set it down somewhere in the next room? That's a famous one around here...and then that item will sit there for a week!
Having several kids, I find it ironic that they can see the other kids' messes, and yet don't see theirs at all. "ME? He needs to come and pick HIS stuff up. It's all OVER the place!" Yet, what the grumbling child isn't seeing?...is that he has 14 things laying around the room, the one he's grumbling about took off his shoes, socks, and left his bookbag in the room! Kids! God love 'em!
Oh yes, the pile just moves from room to room and mine point out what the other one leaves lying around all the time. Mine seem to have selective sight as well as selective hearing .
I know you don't like hearing it, but your daughter knows she can get away with anything and it's only going to get worse.
You and you husband need to get on a united front right now. I'd strip everything out of her room, except a change of clothes and a mattress, and make her earn back everything else.
..How about this, do your's pick up their stuff to take to their rooms, then simply set it down somewhere in the next room? That's a famous one around here...and then that item will sit there for a week!
Mine will take her things into her room and forget where they are. It's like they disappear.
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Originally Posted by beachmel
Kids! God love 'em!
SOMEBODY has to. Just kidding.
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Originally Posted by NCyank
Something similar worked very well when I had asked my 11 yo to get forks out of the dishwasher for breakfast. She complained (while moaning and rolling eyes) "I do all the work around here!!!"
Where do they get that anyway??? It's like they're born with a list or something.
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