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My husband hardly ever talks to his mom or his dad. But during baseball season he and his dad go to several games and he goes to their house to pick him up and drop him off, that's when he gets all his parent visitation in. I talk to my mom a couple times a week on the phone and see her and my dad once or twice a week. We all live close by and our parents are all in their 80's.
I have to say my mom was very much aware of how busy our lives were when the now grown kids were little. She told me she would rely on my calling here cause she was afraid to interrupt my family so I had the responsibility to keep it going.
I callled about once a week, mostly to chat about happenings on our shared soap opera.
My husband talked to his mom about once a month or less. They were not very close but when she was diagnosed with cancer and we knew she was alone, we immediately made arrangements to move her in with us.
She was killed in an auto accident on the way to chemo. very sad.
How often do other men my age and place in life converse with your Mom?
Steve
Sounds like your mom is lonely and needs to find some friends. Maybe your brother is feeling he would rather not talk so much and wishes you would more so he won't have to. I think you're doing plenty.
My husband calls his mom every week or two....He aims for once/week but occasionally two busy weeks go by and he realizes he hasn't called her. We live in a different state and she is past the age where she feels comfortable traveling so the phone calls are important to her - esp as he is the youngest and very close to her. I think 2-3 times/day is a lot unless there is something specific going on. As a woman, I don't even talk to my mom THAT much LOL - maybe 3-4x/week....
It's been subtly hinted to me (by Mom and brother) that I ought to call Mom more, or drop in and see her more often. I think once or twice a week is plenty and don't see the need for greater frequency.
It sounds like your brother wants you to make up for his absences. You need to point out to both of them that you seeing mom more often isn't going to make her miss him any less.
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