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Girl i feel your pain i have a 14 daughter that is everything you described and i am in need of a boot camp for her ASAP before i kill her i am soooo sick and tired if anyone out there knows of a boot camp in the north carolina area please email me at [EMAIL="trina6300@yahoo.com"]trina6300@yahoo.com[/EMAIL] i want a camp that will make her do push ups run obstacle courses and that will bring her to her knees and make her appreciate the home she has.
my nephew of 16 is out of control. he's skipping school, grades are low and smoking marijuana. today he did'nt go to school. He said he wants to get checked out because he wantd to go live with a relative. He wants to live where there are no rules and he can just run the streets at all hours. what can we do? Is there someone we can talk to for advise?
Thanks for the replies everyone. I had some health issues ever since we moved into our two story house from a single story. As a result, it was difficult for me to go upstairs and my husband had to help out a lot. This happened about 3.5 years ago. This strengthened their bond and he started to spoil her with things. Eventually, she being a child, started to get use to things and started to exploit him.He re-assured me that she will get more mature. I had enough about 2 years ago, and started to tell her to start helping out and start becoming part of the family. However, she just would not listen and would create an uproar when we did not give into her demands. My husband, daughter and I started to get into more fights and now the situation has gotten so severe that she hardly ever comes downstairs to spend time with me and only talks to him.
Whenever we try to take the phone, mp3 or laptop away she starts to shout and scream and uses profanity. She cries and tells us she won't do her homework and won't go to school. She throws things in her room and makes holes in the wall. She even runs away and my husband goes out to find her. The principal at school says to call the police when she runs away and have them fetch her. However, I don't want to embarrass our family in the neighborhood.
She is out of control and I agree with you all the blame does go to us. It started out as just trying to make her happy, but now it has turned into a situation where we are terrified of her reaction to the word "No."
She was a very bright GATE student and is now getting D's and F's. She also says she has no desire whatsover to go college and if she doesn't get to be a professional skateboarder she won't do anything else. This is clearly a lack of maturity/understanding. I agree we all need counseling, but she doesn't understand that we are in control and she has to listen to us until she is 18.
Life is difficult outside, and if it his her decision to move out at 18, I have to let her even if it breaks my heart. However, I think I have a responsibility to society and her to teach her the norms of a civil society.
I'm sorry if I sound like a whiner but I've really reached my wits end, I am almost 50 and never expected to deal with this much stress and turmoil at this stage of my life. But at the same time I love my daughter and I am willing to do anything to ensure that she has a good and stable life that will nurture her into a responsible, respectable and mature adult.
Thanks for any help/advice.
I know this post is old, but am I the only one who wondered if there was some incest going on? Sounds like the dad is afraid of her. What does she have hanging over his head? Just a thought. Of course, I could be totally wrong. Read the part I highlighted.
ok, yeah,..........it's a good thing my kids don't realize that they can "force" us to deliver their meals to their rooms! Wow, if this is for real, you guys have your work cut out for you. It has gone WAy too far and needs to stop immediately! She is way over the top, but you let it happen. Be the parents now, admit you made mistakes and take the hardline now. she cannot run the show.
After much consideration, I am inclined to think that maybe, just maybe, Gimme it has the right idea, this kid has something on the old man, don't know if it is incest or not, but she seems to have him by the short and curlies.
Now it sounds like the OP can't get upstairs to check on the girl so why not have cameras installed with out anyone else knowing, see what is happening in your own home, I know, it's not really on the up and up but what other choice does the OP have?.
I know this post is old, but am I the only one who wondered if there was some incest going on? Sounds like the dad is afraid of her. What does she have hanging over his head? Just a thought. Of course, I could be totally wrong. Read the part I highlighted.
Just because a father or mother bends to their child, doesn't mean they are having sex sheesh. And this thread is over a year old.
Just because a father or mother bends to their child, doesn't mean they are having sex sheesh. And this thread is over a year old.
Hey, I wouldn't have even mentioned it, but something about the OP's posts made me wonder. Read carefully. I know tons of permissive parents and I NEVER consider incest. This post just seems strange.
And one more thing, so-called "spoiling" a child does not create the kind of monster we are talking about here. This girl is not well, for whatever reason. Lots of overindulged children in America, and they are not all acting like this.
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