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I don't understand the fixation on kids and respect. My kids interact with people the same way adults do - learn their names, talk to them, etc. We're not raising them to be blindly obedient or blindly respect every adult. As far as remembering what to call each person, children's memories are so much better than ours as adults. My daughter remembers every name, number, and conversation - both H and I ask her to remind us of things.
Also, how often does one really say someone's name in conversation? I know I rarely do. When we're at home, we usually refer to their friends' parents by their first names or so-and-so's mom or dad. It's never occurred to me to tell them what to call people. I figure they will navigate that on their own if they are truly called upon to say the name.
Of course, I also called my parents by their first names, upon their request.
And it usually works both ways as well. If your boss wants to be called Mr/Ms/Mrs/Sir/Ma'am - that's fine with me. But usually most bosses, when you've earned THEIR respect will say "Call me Mary/Bob/etc."
I don't understand the fixation on kids and respect. ... We're not raising them to be blindly obedient or blindly respect every adult.
Why does it have to be a "fixation"? It's not. It's education and a preference, just like your parents taught you.
Why does saying "sir" or "ma'am" have to be blind obedience? It's not. That's just you being disrespectful to someone's belief that differs from yours by insulting it and making it seem insidious.
My kids speak to adults intelligently, but my youngest is NOT an adult, and he shouldn't speak to them "the same," as if he were.
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