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or when someone is putting together a party or luncheon they might say, lets put this on that table, or here why dont you hang that there....
We have someone in our group who is always adding in a sarcastic tone "Please" "Thank you"
My thought is, if we are working together and everyone is being nice and friendly isnt please or thank you implied? Why would a grown adult feel the need to say this? We are all women in our 50s and this is just weird.
Because people don't like being ordered around and when you don't add a "thank you" or "please", these requests sound like you are ordering people to do your bidding.
Working together is nice but that doesn't mean everyone gets along equally. There sometimes are people who use a group activity as a chance to take over or impose their "superiority" over people. Until you use manners, people assume that is your motive. It's just human nature!
you could be ordering someone around but you ALWAYS add a please to it to make it seem nicer. its a leadership tactic to be stern with people but not bossy.
I think that we all need to have a sense of "boundaries" around us so we remember "where we start and end" and "where other people begin.".....Saying "please" and "thank you " fortifies and strengthens "healthy boundaries" in our relationships.....Everytime my husband brings me something I say "thank you" and vica versa...We always say "please" when we make requests of each other...Nothing is expected or taken for granted...This is the way I raised my children too...and the way my parents raised me and "treated me" when I was growing up .....I'm sure we may look like "freaks" to the rest of the world at times because we are so polite to each other......But it works for us and helps us "feel proud" of our family.
Very interesting feedback. I always thought of it as a friendly tone, everyone working together... that kind of thing. But I appear wrong, I have learned.
I am still kind of weirded out about someone correcting and adding the "please and thank you" I find that odd. But I have been wrong before .
or when someone is putting together a party or luncheon they might say, lets put this on that table, or here why dont you hang that there....
We have someone in our group who is always adding in a sarcastic tone "Please" "Thank you"
My thought is, if we are working together and everyone is being nice and friendly isnt please or thank you implied? Why would a grown adult feel the need to say this? We are all women in our 50s and this is just weird.
Manners is one of the things I instilled in my child at a very young age and to this day I get compliments from parents and teachers on what a well behaved child he is and how polite. What they don't know won't hurt them but at least with strangers he is on his best behavior. One point for Mom!
I have had to teach some to my husband especially when asking for something at a restaurant or store. Always say please with your request and thank you. Guess my parent's did a good job too
Very interesting feedback. I always thought of it as a friendly tone, everyone working together... that kind of thing. But I appear wrong, I have learned.
I am still kind of weirded out about someone correcting and adding the "please and thank you" I find that odd. But I have been wrong before .
Lesson learned! Thank you all.
It's no fun to be around "busy-bodies" or "bossy" people...I don't think I'd like to be around someone who constantly plays "Miss Manners.".....This would feel weird to me too....even though I enjoy saying "please" and "thank you" myself....
or when someone is putting together a party or luncheon they might say, lets put this on that table, or here why dont you hang that there....
We have someone in our group who is always adding in a sarcastic tone "Please" "Thank you"
My thought is, if we are working together and everyone is being nice and friendly isnt please or thank you implied? Why would a grown adult feel the need to say this? We are all women in our 50s and this is just weird.
But I think the sarcastic "please" and "thank you" is more of a put down toward someone than trying to be polite. Is she doing it to point out to you that you are omitting it? Or is she doing it to be a smartass? That would be my question.
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