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Chiming in late, but that seems like a horrible way to handle the situation. Is your wife going to do something similar everytime your son tells her about a situation where someone is "mean" to him?
Exactly. It's not about whether or not he actually was a "victim" but how he sees himself and reacts. Does he feel like a victim and behave like one?
This happened to my son during his first month of first grade. It was another first grader (who was actually a year older than my son) who was picking on him, hitting the back of his head while sitting behind him, calling him a baby because he still liked Spiderman etc. I called the bus company and spoke to the bus driver, who did notice it and had already called his mother. I happen to know the childs mother and was fully prepared to escalate it, but wanted to let the bus people deal with it first. They did take care of it by restricting where the kids sat and the boy who was bothering my son actually did feel badly and was more friendly.
I would absolutely not keep him off the bus...that absolutely sends the wrong message to your son and quite frankly coddles him. I'd follow up with the bus company and see if they can make a concerted effort to keep those boys away from your son. It will pass...unfortunately kids often feel free to bully and do whatever they want on the bus.
Hi, I just found the thread when I went researching incidents involving bullies, and wanted to quickly throw in some of my personal memories from having to ride the school bus ten years or so ago. Other kids used to try to push me around now and then, but the defense I chose (and more or less stuck with all my life) is one of disinterest. Think of younger me like a little hipster, with obvious external boredom directed toward bullies. Soon enough, I started feeling more comfortable just going and sitting with the older kids toward the back of the bus, who seemed to accept me and not be crude or mean. I fit in better with them, and it was a HUGE advantage for me - no jerkwad bullies are going to try to cause problems with the wholly uninterested kid who doesn't seem to notice a bully's existence.
So, I suppose I feel bad for your kid having to be corralled with ONLY kids his age, especially if his own awareness and overall self is a bit beyond the range of the kids in his year. But, I think he'll figure it out on his own. No matter what, be sure he will look back on childhood as his parents having been genuinely cool people about everything, y'know?
Two 6 year olds cramming into a seat with another 6 year old and smooshing him against the window is NOT being mean.
It's called "being 6 years old" OR "playing".
They were probably trying to make friends with the OP's son. Little kids do silly stuff to one another when they want to be friends. Whether the OP's wife likes it or not, the "normal" way for 6 year olds to socialize isn't the adult way.
And it shouldn't be. They are 6, for crying out loud.
Darn shame that kids aren't allowed to be kids these days.
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