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Reading things like this, sometimes I am so proud of my brothers for treating their wives as partners and recognizing that raising children and creating a wonderful home life is priceless.
However, I hear from MANY males that their spouse likes to use this line all the time. That wouldn't work for me. Why do I have to use my income to pay for rent, bills, food, etc and you can go buy handbags, shoes, etc?
No wonder the divorce rate is over 50%. Selfish ******.
It's all relative to what one has; the way I see it, I have a home anyway. As long as both people contribute to the relationship (and necessities in some way), what difference does it make?
However, I hear from MANY males that their spouse likes to use this line all the time. That wouldn't work for me. Why do I have to use my income to pay for rent, bills, food, etc and you can go buy handbags, shoes, etc?
No wonder the divorce rate is over 50%. Selfish ******.
That sounds one-sided but might be reasonable if one partner is a stay at home parent with a very low income.
Funny I'm always hearing how same sex marriage is destroying the institution of "traditional marriage". Every same sex couple I know either combine their finances or keep them separate and split expenses. Much less money fights.
Funny I'm always hearing how same sex marriage is destroying the institution of "traditional marriage". Every same sex couple I know either combine their finances or keep them separate and split expenses. Much less money fights.
Ummm... that would describe most hetero marriages as well. (And, for the record, I'm a happy member of a denomination that supports same-sex marriages.)
The Ex and I kept separate accounts and split expenses. It didn't work because he spent every dime he made and then maxed out his credit cards to support his exquisite tastes in clothing, booze and fishing equipment. *I* was the emergency fund if the house needed a new roof or the water heater died.
Second husband and I also had separate accounts. He had modest tastes, spent responsibly and we agreed without even discussing it on when to splurge and when to go cheap. Eventually I added him as a co-borrower to my credit cards so that his spending could rack up miles and hotel points, too. We were a team.
It's not the structure of the finances or the sexual orientation of the partners. It's agreeing on common goals and priorities.
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I have a lot, so I have no issues with paying all of the bills. But my wealth is protected so I share because I feel like it, not because I have to.
You pay *all* of the bills.....doesn't your wife or Gf want to contribute anything? My fiance pays for most because he makes a lot more $ than me BUT I wouldn't feel right about not giving anything...it's the principle of the thing IMO......& I wouldn't want my fiance to think I'm taking advantage of him...........
He should have recognized this early on. It's very obvious when people spend too much money. He really has no one but himself to blame. I find that a lot of men make poor choices of who to marry.
I don't think that is just men. A lot of women do too. I think it's a people thing.
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