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Originally Posted by ncole1
There is just about zero chance of being able to live in Riverside County independently with such a low income. Are there any more middle class jobs she might be qualified for?
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I've been racking my brain on the job situation.
She was formerly paid cash as part of a less than legal weed growing operation. She use to cut for whomever these people were.
Anytime I ask her about skills the only ones she can come up with are around the weed industry, but given her history with drug and alcohol abuse I don't think it's the right path to go down.
I want to see if
maybe I can get her some semi reliable transportation and maybe we can find some sort of trade job for her. Plumbing, hvac, etc.
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Originally Posted by ncole1
But this depends on the terms of the DUI class - is she on a form of probation or condition that makes her effectively unable to leave the state if she wants to have hope of eventually regaining her license? How much time is left before she finishes the classes?
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This is a good question, I don't know if there are any restrictions about leaving the state. Due to covid her DUI classes are all on zoom these days so technically she can do them from whereever.
I know the final payment date for these classes is 4/30/22 so I'm guessing she has to take a certain number of these classes before that end date to satisfy the requirements.
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Originally Posted by ncole1
Also, can you maybe keep her dog temporarily even if she moves out? Finding affordable housing is a lot easier when you don't have to deal with the problem of being turned away by no-pets landlords.
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I think the dog is doable. We already have a dog and I think I can convince the wife to take in another.
Now - will my sister be willing to give up the dog? That's a whole other can of worms.
My gut says no, and the only real leverage I have here is to kick her out on the street. She'll most certainly take her dog with her for that option.
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Originally Posted by Mr. Ryu
What about mom and dad? Can they take her in?
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Mom and dad have been caring for her drug and alcohol abuse for years, they turned her away so that's why I ended up stepping up. (I felt bad for my sister and didn't want her on the streets)
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How much would a room cost in that location? How will her budget manage that if possible?
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I don't know if she has it in the budget unless she defaults on all of her credit card debt. She makes minimum wage at walmart.
It's certainly something to look out for though.
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Can she bike to work? (if she can walk it then biking will be much faster or maybe a electric scooter?)
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I've offered her the use of a bike, but she's declined it. She's told me she doesn't want to bike home late at night.
I can see a side to the late night safety argument, but man these ubers are crazy expensive!
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Originally Posted by Threestep2
She may not do anything on her own as the current arrangement requires little effort on her part.
Part time second job?
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This is a good point, she doesn't really have to do anything here. Path of lease resistance deal I suppose.
I've tried to make her do chores and odd jobs around the house but she ends up just making everything worse (and if things go out of place and aren't done nicely my wife starts to get mad)
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Originally Posted by skaternum
Sorry, you're not going to like my advice. She should carefully rehome the dog. You need to give her a firm deadline to leave your trailer in 2 months. Research a cheap place to live that has a walmart and buy her a bus ticket. You have gone above & beyond, and fixing your sister's numerous self-inflicted problems is NOT your responsibility. She drove up her debt and drove drunk. There is only so much YOU can do without jeopardizing your mental health & your marriage. You need to learn to back away & not accept the burden of your sister's problems. Unless she has a disability, she is grown azz adult and needs to fix her own problems.
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Well advice is advice, and at this stage I'm open to nearly all of it.
I think we can manage the dog (we have one so adding another isn't the end of the world for us)
I think the deadline is a good idea, I know that she's not going to come back to me with a plan of action on what she's going to do and as a caring family member that concerns me (The emotional tie here is killing me)
I appreciate the tough love perspective.