who stays in the room during euthanasia? (lost, cost, grooming)

rachel210389 · 01-10-2008, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by nicolepsy

im wondering how common this is. i have always stayed in the room during euthanasia in order to comfort my pet and somehow i feel like it is my duty. it is a horrible experience to go through but i always thought it was the right thing to do. im wondering about other's personal choices on this matter.

I stayed,twice.My mom couldn't stay (first time I was 12,second 17) and I didn't want to let the dog alone so I stayed,I tried to not cry because I didn't want it to think I was sad,but it was very hard,but if I had to do it again,I will,I think we have to stay with them until the end.

Svenskagirl2 · 01-10-2008, 08:34 PM

I take care of my pets in life, and I take care of my pets in death. Would you leave your son or daughter dying? Never, so we hold, love them, and tell them how wonderful they are till the end. When they go over the rainbow bridge there will be no pain!

goldenmom7500 · 01-11-2008, 03:46 PM

I stayed for two dogs now. I read a book about pets once, just an animal care book, and the author said (sob) "I wanted my face to be the last thing he saw".

Hellofromme! · 01-14-2008, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by nicolepsy

im wondering how common this is. i have always stayed in the room during euthanasia in order to comfort my pet and somehow i feel like it is my duty. it is a horrible experience to go through but i always thought it was the right thing to do. im wondering about other's personal choices on this matter.

I am now suffering a depression from having to euthanize my best friend. I was in the room but could not look at him. I asked the vet to administer a sedating drug first..it haunts me to think he knew what was coming. The other person in the room told me he looked calm. All I remember was the vet saying he was gone...and the sobbing. I still cannot believe this. I am crying now....

brightdoglover · 01-15-2008, 03:51 AM

I stayed with both my pets. One was a very unpleasant scene requiring multiple sedations and a muzzle. The tech was in tears. I sent them a thank-you note immediately, with a picture of the dog in better days, because I know it was hard on them to have such a difficult euthanasia, but it was a mercy to the dog.
The second time, he just laid on the table, the vet used the vein from his hospitalization, and he dropped off as if sleeping. A much more peaceful situation.
Still, both times I felt like I'd been beaten with a baseball bat. I do admit, after a day or two, I felt a relief. It was harder having them home, deteriorating but still with me, and look at them and know they would be gone very soon, as soon as I could decide.

goldenmom7500 · 01-15-2008, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Hellofromme!

I am now suffering a depression from having to euthanize my best friend. I was in the room but could not look at him. I asked the vet to administer a sedating drug first..it haunts me to think he knew what was coming. The other person in the room told me he looked calm. All I remember was the vet saying he was gone...and the sobbing. I still cannot believe this. I am crying now....

I am so, so sorry. I just posted on your other thread. I can't think of anything that is this painful. But helping your dog through this is brave and humane.

One thing that helps is to set up a table (shrine, there must be a better word) in your house with photos and memories. Ours stayed up for a long, long time. I also bought one of those engraved stones, submitted his name to a candle lighting ceremony (somewhere on-line), etc., etc.

CarolAnn64 · 01-19-2008, 08:40 PM

I couldn't do it. I wanted to but I was sobbing uncontrollably and the doctor said it was best if I wasn't there. I stayed with her while she fell into a deep sleep though and said good-bye then.

tulegirl · 01-19-2008, 08:51 PM

Trust your hearts.

teachbeach · 01-20-2008, 06:56 AM

We stayed and took our other dog with us. It was hard but we felt that it brought closure to her life with us. She was 1 month shy of 16 years. The vet let us come when they normally don't have office hours, so we were somewhat sheltered.

kelly3120 · 01-20-2008, 08:12 PM

I posted a while ago but I didn't stay w/ Bailey last weds. I was such a mess I would've made matters worse. I also had o do it alone as my husband couldn't get off work, so my support system was a little lower then usual that day.

I am not bawling my eyes.
I'm not heartless and I love animals ....I'm just out of tears from the last week.

I do not want to stay and see my beloved pet die, but I would if they were looking for me and clinging to me. I want to remember them healthy.
My Bailey cat wasn't looking for me. I swear he knew what we were there for. He was very calm, didn't meow and almost seemed thankful that I finally worked up the nerve to let him go.

I told the vet I didn't know what I wanted to do and wen I handed him to her and he didn't mind I decided to go home and cry w/ my puppy. I hugged that puppy for a very long time and headed to my moms to be surround by all her doggies and mine. They make me happy and I don't care how old you are(I'm 25) Moms know how to fix everything.

I'm not even gonna think about 15 years down the road when it's time again, but it all depends on the animal. I do know that Cody would need me there. Cody must always have me in eye sight.
I think it's really a personal choice and I know lots of people who are haunted by watching their beloved pet go to sleep.

When our Collie died I was away in college. My Mom held her head and talked to her, my little brother hugged her and my DAd (her favorite person ....She was very special to him. He loved her like a human child) couldn't handle it and waited outside in tears.
I think it just depends. But I can tell you I LOVED THAT CAT VERY MUCH!...still do