Philly is depressing (Philadelphia, York: gangs, trains, suburban)

[kyb01]

Originally Posted by rowhomecity

We are the city of brotherly love. Professing to everyone you are from NC surely will not bring warmness from our hearts. Because frankly. No one cares. And we dont care if you dont like us. I suggest if you are unhappy. Move back. I talk to everyone on my Philadelphia block whenever I see them. Nearly everyone in the city I interact with has a warm heart. But we keep it real. And professing you are from a certain place, surely has no measure or care for us.

And we will simply for the most part. Dismiss you. Philadelphia is a city. You are either in the club and love it. Or you just dont get it. Have some Philadelphia pride. And my guess you will start seeing that friendly attitude coming back your way.

Whenever a transplant moves here and expects the city to be like their hometown. I roll my eyes.

It's a pain in the a$$ to read stuff upthread but you missed that Patmcpsu, apparently, grew up in the Phila. area near or in West Chester.

Having spent a lot of time in the south it took a long time for me to handle the "friendly" culture there. In many respects I still find it fake, intrusive, over-talking bull crap, nosy, hyper-religious and fundamentally hypocritical. I am always relieved when it's time to come home.

[rowhomecity]

Originally Posted by kyb01

It's a pain in the a$$ to read stuff upthread but you missed that Patmcpsu, apparently, grew up in the Phila. area near or in West Chester.

Having spent a lot of time in the south it took a long time for me to handle the "friendly" culture there. In many respects I still find it fake, intrusive, over-talking bull crap, nosy, hyper-religious and fundamentally hypocritical. I am always relieved when it's time to come home.

Agreed. I personally love Philadelphia's realness.

[Warszawa]

Personally I thought Philadelphia was a lot friendlier than NYC. If you think Philly has cold people, you really need to visit Manhattan lol

[Angus215]

Originally Posted by Warszawa

Personally I thought Philadelphia was a lot friendlier than NYC. If you think Philly has cold people, you really need to visit Manhattan lol

I agree this. I lived in both Center City and Manhattan. People in Manhattan can be very indifferent towards other people, and because of that it is easy to feel isolated living there. In Philly, while people tend to be very direct, which is sometimes interpreted as rudeness, I found people to be quite friendly for the most part. We were friends with many of our neighbors and would get to know people who worked in the local shops, restaurants, bars, etc.

[kyb01]

Originally Posted by Warszawa

Personally I thought Philadelphia was a lot friendlier than NYC. If you think Philly has cold people, you really need to visit Manhattan lol

For me a lot of the behaviorial characteristics between the two are identical. Both have tons of folks with very active BS meters. I like that.

[chessimprov]

Any major city is characteristic of having a lot of depressive aspects as human life in general. General fast pace and masses tend to lose that personableness that smaller communities can offer.

Bigger cities can generally offer more services, potential options for a myriad of things, and conveniences than smaller places.

[kyb01]

Originally Posted by chessimprov

Any major city is characteristic of having a lot of depressive aspects as human life in general. General fast pace and masses tend to lose that personableness that smaller communities can offer.

Bigger cities can generally offer more services, potential options for a myriad of things, and conveniences than smaller places.

Many rural communities, if that's where you mean, have high levels of suicide. So it's not all cherry pie for those folks.

[selhars]

See, this is where I think we differ. I would absolutely hate it if I was going about my business at the store and someone just started chit chatting with me because we were looking at the same brand of mustard. That's not friendly to me. That's intrusive and super annoying.

On the other hand, I travel extensively and every week find myself in new cities, states, countries. I frequently go out to dinner and to pubs by myself and honestly have found that if I strike up a conversation or even insert myself in an ongoing conversation that obviously isn't meant to be private (i.e. serious work convo or romantic partners), I almost always receive a warm welcome. I personally have never found a difference between these situations in North Carolina or downtown Manhattan.

So again, it's probably just how we view what being friendly consists of. If you want to hold me up while I'm doing a chore like washing my car or food shopping so you can discuss the weather, I'm not in the slightest interested and quite frankly rather annoyed. If you we're both in a relaxed situation where we are obviously wasting time and doing nothing of importance (like sipping some beers at a pub), then sure, let's chat.

Yes. Yes. Yes. People in Philly are friendly. But it depends on when and where you're striking up the conversation. That's all.

[Patmcpsu]

Originally Posted by kyb01

Many rural communities, if that's where you mean, have high levels of suicide. So it's not all cherry pie for those folks.

I would go as far as to say that there's no correlation between population density and happiness. This is at the state level, but I believe it agrees: Best states for happiness? WalletHub study ranks Hawaii first, West Virginia last

The biggest factor is prosperity. Regardless of if you're in an urban area or a rural area, if you have a job that provides the dignity of a paycheck and can make ends meet, you're probably going to be happy. The difference is that poor people in urban areas are less likely to kill themselves over it.

[NYtoNJtoPA]

Originally Posted by Warszawa

Personally I thought Philadelphia was a lot friendlier than NYC. If you think Philly has cold people, you really need to visit Manhattan lol

I don’t agree with this either. NYC is very fast-paced but it definitely isn’t “cold” or “unfriendly”. I think New Jersey is the most “unfriendly” from personal experience.