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Old 01-01-2010, 07:08 PM
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As a single guy I prefer to meet women in south jersey because I seem to click better. Either that or meet a women in philly who moved here from another city.


Women who lives in Philly who lived here all her life=STAY AWAY
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Old 01-01-2010, 07:26 PM
 
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As a single guy I prefer to meet women in south jersey because I seem to click better. Either that or meet a women in philly who moved here from another city.


Women who lives in Philly who lived here all her life=STAY AWAY
Hmm and I'm a woman - so then the scary question does it apply that "Men who live in Philly who have lived here all their lives = STAY AWAY"?
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Old 01-01-2010, 07:41 PM
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Hmm and I'm a woman - so then the scary question does it apply that "Men who live in Philly who have lived here all their lives = STAY AWAY"?

Could be, I have a female friend who moved here from Denver and not having luck with dating.
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Old 01-01-2010, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Center City Philadelphia
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It's funny.. my friend who moved to Philly is friends with all people who moved there as well.

Same thing in Harrisburg. The natives just aren't as "friendly", so you make friends with people who aren't from the area.
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Old 01-01-2010, 10:41 PM
 
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I think everyone gripes about dating in their city when they are single. So there are no surprises there. Still I can see nuances in what people have written so far. I think on difference I suspect is that many are coming to NY to be successful or make it/money etc. and esp. for men, it can mean settling down later or not wanting to be bothered by it so much. I imagine Philly has less of this but that also means pay is less etc. The cost of living reflects this though.

There is also a greater sense in NY that people are in a rush and we often don't regard others in our day to day lives for this reason. In calmer settings/parties etc. it is not so much. So I dont think people are meaner in NY - just everyday life can make people guarded and myopic. I say this more vs other cities I've lived. I haven't lived in Philly but spent some time - but I'm learning more from your posts.

Any others are always welcome. Thanks.
In which cities that you lived in did you feel the people were less guarded and myopic than New York? It seems to me that people in Philadelphia are in general less outgoing than in New York City.
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Old 01-02-2010, 01:06 AM
 
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I guess the Bay Area would probably be the only one. I think people in NY are not guarded when it is friend of friends, group activities/hobbies. They are very open to meeting new people in such scenarios since many people are from elsewhere.

I am speaking about daily life - walking in the streets, grocery stores, subways etc. In those scenarios, you are trained to not look at others or talk to them. The bay area is more laidback and I would guess some other cities too.
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Old 01-03-2010, 06:45 PM
 
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Could be, I have a female friend who moved here from Denver and not having luck with dating.
I totally agree with this statement. All my friends, who are not from this area, have had terrible luck in dating "the locals." They complain about the local guys and end up dating people not originally from Philly.
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Old 01-03-2010, 06:53 PM
 
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It's funny.. my friend who moved to Philly is friends with all people who moved there as well.

Same thing in Harrisburg. The natives just aren't as "friendly", so you make friends with people who aren't from the area.
Agree with this as well...I don't have a single "local" true friend and knowing my friends extended circle...the same is true for them as well.
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Old 01-03-2010, 06:58 PM
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I totally agree with this statement. All my friends, who are not from this area, have had terrible luck in dating "the locals." They complain about the local guys and end up dating people not originally from Philly.
I find myself dating women who are not from philly and I lived here all my life-lol
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Old 01-03-2010, 06:59 PM
 
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What I've found from moving quite a bit is that people that have lived in one area their whole lives are not as eager to befriend new people because they already have a full roster of friends and family nearby. Now that I've lived in the same place (NOT in Philadelphia) for 12 years I find that while I am certainly friendly to strangers, I'm much less willing to take the steps to become friends and do things with new people. It's hard enough to find time for my own family and old friends. I didn't understand that before because we moved every three or four years and I was always eager to make new friends. My daughter, who lives in Brooklyn, says that everyone that she meets in NYC is from some place else. She doesn't know any native NY people.
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