U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Philosophy
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 08-29-2013, 08:47 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
27,330 posts, read 30,545,341 times
Reputation: 26957

Advertisements

I am not a parent, but this incident really made me think about the differences in parenting strategies.

Today I was walking over to the pharmacy, on one of the "main streets" in my city. A busy artery with car traffic, bike traffic, bus traffic and lots of pedestrians. It is also near the commuter train station.

The stretch I was on was pretty packed, and the crosswalk was full, so I stepped to the outside of the crosswalk to pass an elderly couple (the pharmacy was closing soon!).

And there were some kids ran past me.

I thought, hmmmm...why are they running on the busy sidewalk? They were likely 8-10. Pretty tall, so not 5 year olds. Maybe a group of four or so.

So I am still walking, and they are running around the sidewalk landscaping. Next thing I know, I little girl barrels into me and steps on my toe.

What happens next was shocking. She looks back at me and gives me an evil look like, "why are you in the way!" She didn't apologize or acknowledge she was in the wrong. A mumbled sorry would have been expected.

And as for mom? Well she didn't say a word to me at least. She was a few steps behind me. She just told the kids to stop playing tag on the sidewalk (the game was going on for at least half a block at this point.)

What gives? When I was that age, my mom would have apologized on my behalf and forced me to apologize. Ok, well let's be real, I wouldn't have been playing tag on a busy sidewalk. My mom would have ended the game before it even started.

What happened to attentive parents?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 08-29-2013, 08:50 PM
 
9,059 posts, read 16,762,608 times
Reputation: 6864
Nothing new here and definitely nothing to speak to about an entire generation

Sorry you had a crappy experience - but such is life

Doesn't necessarily provide license to pick up the broad brush and paint it as a generational issue - many parents today would have done exactly what your parents would have done back then .... also, back then there would have parents who responded this way
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 08:55 PM
 
16,833 posts, read 14,563,291 times
Reputation: 20764
Wait one rude 8yo represents the entire generation?

Huh.

Today I had two kids ages 8 and eleven volunteer to spend their last day of summer break helping unpack a bunch of dusty boxes for no other reason than to be nice.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 08:56 PM
 
Location: The Midwest
2,920 posts, read 3,300,314 times
Reputation: 5215
You had one bad experience with a rude kid/parent and you believe it is indicative of an entire generation.

Nice.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 09:01 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
20,419 posts, read 38,728,951 times
Reputation: 39117
"Ran into the next generation of entitled kids"

No you didn't....
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 09:02 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
27,330 posts, read 30,545,341 times
Reputation: 26957
Well, it might be fair to note that I live in a region with way more entitled adults than average. They all gravitate to a handful of neighborhoods once they grow up, and all have remarkably similar backgrounds.

The neighborhood I was in, is the type of area where the young adults who gravitate to the entitled area are from. They fit the profile. (The land of helicopter parents, where parents have more money than time. And they need to work for their money).
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 09:06 PM
 
16,833 posts, read 14,563,291 times
Reputation: 20764
Quote:
Originally Posted by jade408 View Post
Well, it might be fair to note that I live in a region with way more entitled adults than average. They all gravitate to a handful of neighborhoods once they grow up, and all have remarkably similar backgrounds.

The neighborhood I was in, is the type of area where the young adults who gravitate to the entitled area are from. They fit the profile. (The land of helicopter parents, where parents have more money than time. And they need to work for their money).
Oakland? One of the most diverse cities in the country is full of entitled people? Go figure.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 09:24 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
46,269 posts, read 44,600,673 times
Reputation: 90482
Quote:
Originally Posted by jade408 View Post
Well, it might be fair to note that I live in a region with way more entitled adults than average. They all gravitate to a handful of neighborhoods once they grow up, and all have remarkably similar backgrounds.

The neighborhood I was in, is the type of area where the young adults who gravitate to the entitled area are from. They fit the profile. (The land of helicopter parents, where parents have more money than time. And they need to work for their money).
As long as we aren't generalizing...

SO ... the question was, "What happened to attentive parents?"

They're still out there, but you don't notice because no one pays attention to the 3 wheels that are working when that one broken wheel is squeaking so damn loud.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
27,330 posts, read 30,545,341 times
Reputation: 26957
Quote:
Originally Posted by lkb0714 View Post
Oakland? One of the most diverse cities in the country is full of entitled people? Go figure.
It is. But obviously there are many entitled neighborhoods in the greater Bay Area.

*Cough*Cough* Marina!!!

And certain areas in Oakland where the "profiles" gravitate. Not everyone, but they tend to have a couple of extra markers.

*$1000+ strollers for starters.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-29-2013, 09:43 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
27,330 posts, read 30,545,341 times
Reputation: 26957
Quote:
Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life View Post
As long as we aren't generalizing...

SO ... the question was, "What happened to attentive parents?"

They're still out there, but you don't notice because no one pays attention to the 3 wheels that are working when that one broken wheel is squeaking so damn loud.
Haha! I usually wave to those kids.

They wave back.

My sister stereotypes kids from other cities. The ones in Oakland are generally pretty well behaved. But there are some nearby suburbs where the bad seeds seem to congregate. Or it is in the water.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Philosophy
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

© 2005-2020, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top