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Old 11-28-2009, 06:51 AM
 
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I feel like I should be doing something else, or having something else happening in my life.. I work in a call center as a tech of one of the largest telecommunication carriers in the world, great benefits, pretty good pay for being there a year at age 21 mind you, paid holidays, everything.. I long for adventure.. the likes of the stories you hear of national geographic photographers spending time in the wild, yet I have the feelings of longing to counsel someone.. I just need my life partner! I feel like I should be getting married rightnow, and having babies..
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Old 11-28-2009, 10:32 PM
 
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Those two are inter-related. If the issue is lack of ability, then you have to realize that and stop chasing that pipe-dream. I mean, when I was 12 I wanted to be the starting shortstop or center fielder on the Yankees, obviously that will never pan out. Otherwise I don't see what the issue is. Want to be a chef? Save up money and go to culinary school. Rock-climbing? Set a day, and go!

Also it doesn't help that you haven't given specific examples of what you want to do.
To a degree, you're right..

What I want to do is too personal to share, so I hope you understand that; but, I'll go with an example here that a friend once went through..

Say that I feel as if I'm destined to help children.. So I've been doing that, but I want to go further - to open a local community building that is catered towards motivating, teaching, and assisting children in bettering their lives for the future. Now, I've done the research, I have the resources, and I have the motivation to do this. But, I lack the knowledge of how to really get things off the ground - and so far, I have been unable to learn that knowledge, either because there's nobody to teach me or I just simply haven't read the right book.

This is something that's attainable, and not at all beyond the realm of possibility - however, at this time, I know that if I do this without full knowledge of what I'm doing, it'll fail. I'll only end up hurting more people than helping.

So, what to do? Keep looking for that knowledge, keep accepting that feeling that you were destined for something greater, and once all your ducks are in a row, make it happen..

It's those in-between years, after you first decide that you want something greater in life, and before you have the means to attain that greater something, that we're stuck with that deep-seated desire.

I agree though, if it's something that simply isn't going to happen, then one must move on and make an impact elsewhere; and on the same note, if it's something that is achievable, make it happen..
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Old 11-28-2009, 10:55 PM
 
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i think you people are bandying this word "destiny" about like a tennis ball, but you aren't paying attention to what it implies.

"destiny" suggests that whatever happens would have happened, period; no amount of interference could have changed the outcome. there are schools of thought that suggest we are agents of our own destiny, which seems to preclude that we can control destiny. clearly, these are using two different definitions of the word. instead, i think the best word to use is "future" - we are agents of our own future.

again, with an eye to consistency, the word "meant" seems to imply an objective standard, or an intention. using it as "i meant to ..." suggests that your intentions were one thing, but the results were different. saying "... seemed as if it were meant to happen" implies an irresistible will/force that caused such an effect.

if you want to get big and scary with the expounding of "i was meant for ...", we could start exploring the logical consistency of saying that (if P then Q, and so forth), but i expect many readers wouldn't find that as exciting as griping about how their dreams are unrealized (and unpursued).
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Old 11-28-2009, 11:16 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Am I doing what I'm supposed to be doing???? I don't know, I wonder if the OP really knows as well. I'm so conflicted about how to even define this question. It could be answered in several ways, we talking about career,personal life, etc.

What are we "supposed" to be doing. I sometimes get vague glimpses, perhaps shadows of what I "think" I'm supposed to do. I sometimes think we narrowly define this in terms of career. It could be many things, to many people. Maybe the person that decided that they were gonna save/adopt children, not a career, none the less valid though is it.

What about the guy that could have become a 6 figure plastic surgeon, yet he goes to 3rd world countries to help disfigured children lead a more normal life. Yes, that is something that we all agree is good and honorable.

What about things that aren't so cut and dry. We about people that do some of the most simple job?? Aren't these people's contributions important. Aren't they doing what they're "supposed" to be doing. IDK, makes you think at times.

I know someone one time that is a nurse and she referred to people who are interned to bed and she said that people need to scoop the "shyt" for them, tacky yes, incredibly insensitive, yes. Necessary that people do that, yes.

So I guess what I'm saying is that they're are many things that we are supposed to do.

Some aren't as glamorous as others. Some are more honorable.

Yet, they are all needed and have a "purpose" and yes, someone is "supposed" to do them.
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Old 11-28-2009, 11:18 PM
 
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My girlfriend and I are always making plans to either, A. travel for a week or two to Costa Rica or B. do a big sailing trip.
We are still in the planning stages but will eventually make a plan and stick to it but we always agree on one thing, neither of us are doing what we feel we should be doing.
We both talked about it the other day and we both feel like we are meant for something else. Neither of us see ourselves working in an office through to retirement, we both have a lot of great ideas for business, travel, etc.... but we always say we see ourselves doing something greater....

About the trip, I would go now while you can. Some old fokes told me once, "don't wait until you are old to travel, do it while you are YOUNG!!" And I agree because biologically your senses are at there optimum levels when you are young, so things like sex on the beach, food, and the whole travel experience will be more enjoyable at 30 apposed to 60.




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How do you guys feel? Are you doing what you thought you would be doing at your current age? Do you feel like you are destined for something better, different or greater?

Yes, I have been following my dreams ever since I graduated HS. At let me tell you, it has been extremely difficult, but I press on and continue my journey because I'm following a planted desire that is within my heart and I'm exercising my God given talent.

You know, the hardest part is not practicing what I do, it's not giving up pleasures, and it's not forgoing other careers that financially looked promising, but the hardest thing to do is to stay positive in a world chock full of negative people who like to put you down and tell you that you are a fool for pursuing such endeavors.

Our society is trash, people only do things for monetary gain and people only respect others who display material wealth. The rest are forced to play the game even if they don't want to. This is why you don't see any Beethovens, Michelangelos or Confucius anymore. Think about that, whenever we want something of quality, we need to go BACK in time.

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Old 11-30-2009, 05:52 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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i agree, this whole thread feels like a "pity me because i'm disappointed with my life" gathering.

there is one answer to your problem: fix it. you are the only person who can make the determination about whether your life is satisfactory, no one can force you to do something without your consent; if you're displeased with your situation, there is one place you can look for blame.

LOL, and where did your assessment of the thread come from? It was just a conversation starter.. I'm in no way sorry about the way my life had ended up, in no way unhappy, just working on getting to a new path and it was a good topic to start a conversation about.

I'm pretty sure that everyone who responded doesn't feel everyone else should be pitying them lol
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Old 11-30-2009, 05:54 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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....I smell what you're steppin' in.

I think, there's always a difference between who we are and who we should be. I know it's like that for me. I mean, I'm happy with what I'm doing now, but I know that there's something more that I should be doing.

The only question is, how does one get from where they are now, to where they should be?

We can only do the best we can.
Easy! We just take that step! I think to some degree "everyone" feels likey they could be or should be doing something more or better or different.... it's an interesting thought though.
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Old 11-30-2009, 06:04 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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About the trip, I would go now while you can. Some old fokes told me once, "don't wait until you are old to travel, do it while you are YOUNG!!" And I agree because biologically your senses are at there optimum levels when you are young, so things like sex on the beach, food, and the whole travel experience will be more enjoyable at 30 apposed to 60.







Yes, I have been following my dreams ever since I graduated HS. At let me tell you, it has been extremely difficult, but I press on and continue my journey because I'm following a planted desire that is within my heart and I'm exercising my God given talent.

You know, the hardest part is not practicing what I do, it's not giving up pleasures, and it's not forgoing other careers that financially looked promising, but the hardest thing to do is to stay positive in a world chock full of negative people who like to put you down and tell you that you are a fool for pursuing such endeavors.

Our society is trash, people only do things for monetary gain and people only respect others who display material wealth. The rest are forced to play the game even if they don't want to. This is why you don't see any Beethovens, Michelangelos or Confucius anymore. Think about that, whenever we want something of quality, we need to go BACK in time.

I agree. Also, we are definitely taking the trip. It's more of a scouting trip because, we hope to do our dream business and this trip is more or less business and some pleasure but mostly to figure out if our idea is really going to work.
It's fun planning, and brainstorming. I'm always telling people, do it now or you'll regret it!!!
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Old 06-05-2014, 03:29 PM
 
Location: Oceania
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I should have been a racecar driver.
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Old 06-05-2014, 03:39 PM
 
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My girlfriend and I are always making plans to either, A. travel for a week or two to Costa Rica or B. do a big sailing trip.
We are still in the planning stages but will eventually make a plan and stick to it but we always agree on one thing, neither of us are doing what we feel we should be doing.
We both talked about it the other day and we both feel like we are meant for something else. Neither of us see ourselves working in an office through to retirement, we both have a lot of great ideas for business, travel, etc.... but we always say we see ourselves doing something greater....

How do you guys feel? Are you doing what you thought you would be doing at your current age? Do you feel like you are destined for something better, different or greater?

I'm not talking about doing what you wish you could be doing but rather, physically feeling you are on another path.

Thoughts?
What I want to be doing is be a full time RVer. Lived the casino gambler lifestyle. I tried it actually. No RV though, just my car, LOL. It's adventurous but dangerous and uncomfy.

I already told my husband I will buy an RV in the future. But not the gambler lifestyle. Just camp all over the states. He loves camping. I love road trips. I love driving. I got to experience that- living on the road - one period in my life so that's good. But in reality, you have to have a REAL job and life, ya know.
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