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For me, this is less about getting married and more about the impact on the children due to the lack of a familial structure. I could care less about stigma and/or how men and women view the act of getting married. I care for the children who undoubtedly suffer when the lack of a man and a woman in the house creates a missing piece in the Puzzle of Life for those young impressionable minds.
Are you saying a child can't have family structure without a dad present in the household?
Plenty of stigma and assumptions...
children born out of wedlock will not necessarily grow up dependent on the government, nor will they necessarily grow up to be criminals.
This comment offends me immensely...
I have a 4 year old, out of wedlock, and don't use Medicaid, food stamps, WIC, etc. And he will not grow up thinking the world owes him anything. I work hard to provide for myself and him and he knows the world doesn't revolve around him. I go to school and work full-time. It is stressful and probably would be easier living off the government but my hard work pays off b/c I drive a nice car, live in a brand new house (well, not brand new anymore - built in 2008 but I digress) I am able to buy new clothes for myself and him, go on vacations, etc. all without the help of anyone; I do it ALL BY MYSELF and am very proud in doing so.
I also know at least 10+ more single mothers (who had babies out of wedlock) who are doing the same without help from the state, family, friends, etc. So that pretty much botches your 90% statistic. But thank you for letting me clarify and call you out. It feels good to take a stand and defend all of us "sinners" out there.
My son's father is also in the picture. He's a very good one at that!
It sounds to me like you fall within the 10% that the poster asserted in his statistic. What's the problem?
It sounds to me like you fall within the 10% that the poster asserted in his statistic. What's the problem?
His "statistic" is false. There are more than 10% of us out there. As I said, I know 10 more gals just like me who are living the same way. That means there are 11 of us, which is more than 10%.
His "statistic" is false. There are more than 10% of us out there. As I said, I know 10 more gals just like me who are living the same way. That means there are 11 of us, which is more than 10%.
I'm not here to judge you. But I do question why you know 10 more girls in the same position that you are in. The question I have is: What makes it so attractive to be in that position? Obviously something is appealing about it if you know 10 more girls in the same situation.
I'm saying without a doubt that broken homes are known to . This is not my theory. Take it up with sociologists.
That is ludicrous. I have about 11 really close friends who I either talk to daily or see on a weekly basis. Only 2 of them have parents who are still together. The other 9 don't promote degeneration in society, and a couple of them are ironically more successful than the ones who didn't come from "broken homes."
I'm not here to judge you. But I do question why you know 10 more girls in the same position that you are in. The question I have would be: What makes it so attractive to be in that position? Obviously something is appealing about it if you know 10 more girls in the same position.
Actually, I am a part of an organization started by the ladies who run a Mother's Day Out program. They all live close to where I do, and I've become good friends with all of them. Why do you question me relating to others who are in the same situation as I? It's not as if we are old maids who hate men. I have a boyfriend of 4 years... So I'm not really sure why you are questioning my lifestyle and/or friends?
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But thank you for letting me clarify and call you out. It feels good to take a stand and defend all of us "sinners" out there. 
