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I too, married a polar opposite. It's actually quite easy.
There is a mature respect for each other. We discuss all things political, social and fiscal almost daily. I have great respect for his point of view, as he does mine. We agree on many things, it's the "how to solve it" where we differ. Neither of us are idealists. We come to our opinions via life experience. We fully understand why the other thinks and feels the way they do.
Maturity and the ability to be cognizant of the fact that, while we hold strong opinions, we may not always be right, is all it takes. After 31 years I do believe we have it right.
I too, married a polar opposite. It's actually quite easy.
There is a mature respect for each other. We discuss all things political, social and fiscal almost daily. I have great respect for his point of view, as he does mine. We agree on many things, it's the "how to solve it" where we differ. Neither of us are idealists. We come to our opinions via life experience. We fully understand why the other thinks and feels the way they do.
Maturity and the ability to be cognizant of the fact that, while we hold strong opinions, we may not always be right, is all it takes. After 31 years I do believe we have it right.
Location: Jonquil City (aka Smyrna) Georgia- by Atlanta
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someone who has completely different political views ?
Id have to say a big fat NO !
I would not even date or socialize with a conservative Republican. Political views are too important to me. Not only that but studies show that opposites do NOT attract when it comes to marriage. The more things a couple has in common- ethnicity, age, race, politics, religion, likes and dislikes- the more likely the marriage will last.
Location: Jonquil City (aka Smyrna) Georgia- by Atlanta
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There are only two things that are necessary in a romantic relationship.
#1 You both must trust each other to protect each other from others and to never use your partner's weaknesses against them.
#2 You both must respect each other intellectually and philosophically.
Without both of these elements it's only a matter of time before anger and resentment fracture the relationship.
I don't think I could respect someone who had polar opposite opinions from my own.
I would not even date or socialize with a conservative Republican. Political views are too important to me. Not only that but studies show that opposites do NOT attract when it comes to marriage. The more things a couple has in common- ethnicity, age, race, politics, religion, likes and dislikes- the more likely the marriage will last.
Yeah, but you can't be too identical. Do you really want to roll over in bed and see you in the morning. You each have to bring something different to the table. I don't want to be married to me, but I'd go to prison for murder if I was married to Keith Olbermann. Or he would.
Location: Jonquil City (aka Smyrna) Georgia- by Atlanta
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I too, married a polar opposite. It's actually quite easy.
There is a mature respect for each other. We discuss all things political, social and fiscal almost daily. I have great respect for his point of view, as he does mine. We agree on many things, it's the "how to solve it" where we differ. Neither of us are idealists. We come to our opinions via life experience. We fully understand why the other thinks and feels the way they do.
Maturity and the ability to be cognizant of the fact that, while we hold strong opinions, we may not always be right, is all it takes. After 31 years I do believe we have it right.
Which is probably why you are able to tolerate each other. The less important a certain thing is in life to you, the more you are able to get along with somebody who does not share it with you. For you, politics and idealism is not important and apparently to your spouse. For me, it is important. It is what defines the good and evil in people. On the other hand, religion is not important to me. I am not married to a Seventh Day Adventist and we do not go to church too often anyway.
I've heard Mary say several times how brilliant she thinks he is, and also that he's very considerate. This is why she can tolerate him.
I have a feeling James Carville could work for either side and argue just as successfully, depending upon who was paying him.
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