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Originally Posted by Young Herman
People breed because it is something that comes natural to human beings, some people believe life has a grander meaning that just accumulating stuff and living for yourself. The bond you have with your children is greater then you'll ever have with someone you meet at the bar or on a two week vacation, those relationships are usually superficial. I never met an older woman who never had kids that was happy, most are miserable.
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I beg to differ. Why is adding to the overpopulation problem your idea of serving a "grander" purpose? Do you not realize that with less population fighting over scarce resources, the entire human species would have a much higher quality of life?
I'm one of those older women who is 100% satisfied that I didn't live vicariously through kids, instead of living my own life. It is the opposite of selfish: I am free to worry about what is good for everyone in society, instead of my 2 or 3 "mini-me"s. I don't go to the School Board and demand more expensive fluff for my little deities, but rather am concern with how many elderly and unemployed persons we are forcing out of their houses due to obscene property taxes (which produce no increase in school performance).
I never saw the need to add to the (over)population, and I couldn't be more pleased with the way my life has gone. I don't dedicate my life to money; but can instead think about what's good for ALL of the next generation. I have freedom, early retirement despite economic collapse, and find my self much more happy then my peers who worry if their kids will EVER be self-sufficient (they won't).
Motherhood is not natural, it is a learned behavior (look up chimp studies). Many, many women should never have children because they're not tempermentally suited, I can tell you of several situations where the mother-daughter bond was an abusive and ugly thing--hardly the greatest bond either had.
The rest of women should ignore society's false claim that they can't be happy without reproducing. It's much easier to be happy without the inherent stress of childrearing, no matter what your economic class. Many studies were done that prove child-free women are just as happy at the end of their lives as their reproducing counterparts.
When you don't have kids you bond with your husband and the family you have. You don't "miss" anything. If you find an older woman that regrets not having children, I guarantee she'd have regretted it more if she had them. Some people won't be happy no matter what their situation.
As an added advantage, my husband and I will be the only ones with an estate that can help out our most deserving nieces and nephews when we pass on, something nobody in either of our families has had before.