Guys, guys....let's not get "snippy" with each other. We are all reasonable people and I value your diverse opinions. No, Bily4, there's no "White Domestic Tranquility Gene"- nothing of the sort, you are quite correct. What there is, however, is a US Middle Class, judeo-christian based culture. That culture is a set of values, standards, parameters, and behavioral norms that can be learned and put into practice by anyone who desires to do so. (Just like any other culture). That particular culture has many restrictions upon its members, (we've been called "stuffy" at times)--one of which is that violence and criminal behavior is not seen as a remedy for poverty. Members of that culture (the middle class) who DO engage in such criminal or aggressive behavior, are strongly castigated by their fellows. They get little sympathy or encouragement; instead they are stigmatized. Notice, please, that none of this involves "White Folks", "Black Folks", or any other "folks". This culture is a behavior-based concept. Anyone capable of controlling his behavior, regardless of his ethnicity, is welcome to be a member. Huge numbers have chosen to do so, much to the enrichment of our society,
Here's what happened to me last night- Tell me what you think.... We live in a semi-rural area of Southern Cal. next door to my son. Had a big 4th of July get-together. Started a campfire (in a pit).
There were about 30 people present. Some whites, two blacks, and quite a number of Hispanics. I knew about half these people personally, (my son gave the party), and know for a fact that some of these people had parents who'd crossed the border illegally (the "illegal hordes" refered to elsewhere). One girl was an immigrant from Colombia. My granddaughters' friends were two white/ Hispanic twin sisters. (No,there wasn't a white twin and a Hispanic twin- EACH twin was half white/half Hispanic
Ethnicity and race, by the way, were never discussed. Sooner or later, as was inevitable, the Fire Dept. showed up. Three large white guys and one large Hispanic, all wearing badges and carrying walkie-talkies. They proceeded to "bawl us out" for starting a fire in a brushy area where we've had 3" of rain in the past year. Shame on us; they were right; it was a stupid thing that we did. Me (white) and my spouse (Indian/Hispanic) were the legal property owners and could have gotten in real trouble. They waited as we put the fire out, then departed- they even "blew the siren" as they left, to the delight of the many kiddies present (White, hispanic, and mixed-race toddlers).
At the conclusion of all this excitement, please note the following:
*No one was handcuffed, tasered, hog-tied, or thrown to the ground-...
*No one was called "Boy", "Dirtbag", "M.F. Honky", or "gringo *******"...
*The Police weren't called in for "backup"...
*The officers were never called "pigs"- or "Barney Fife"; no one whispered "oink-oink"
*Those present who DID interact with the "law", made remarks largely centering around the phrases "No sir, yes sir", and "sorry about that"
After the excitement was over, NOT ONE PERSON felt they'd been persecuted or singled out or mistreated due to their color. All agreed we'd done something "not too bright" and it could have gone a lot worse for us.
The fact that you are now learning about my story here, and not on the 6 o'clock news, I feel, is that everyone in this entire diverse group shared a COMMON MIDDLE CLASS set of VALUES. They all knew, by instinct, HOW TO BEHAVE in a prickly situation. They all understood and tacitly accepted the fact that all of us were GUILTY of a lapse in good judgement, and DESERVED the bawling-out that we got. It wasn't our race(s)- it wasn't our color(s)- it was our BEHAVIOR that brought about the intervention of the authorities.
No one, as far as I know, plans on a news-conference or a lawsuit over this incident. I'm not trying to be funny here, honestly. But similar situations have gotten way out of hand before.
It's my contention that we got through this due to our commonly-accepted set of behaviors. Does anyone agree?...if not, I'd be interested to hear from you...
PS Most adult males just HAPPENED to be US Military vets- is this relevant?