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Old 12-22-2010, 07:03 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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Why do folks seem to think it weird if you dont celebrate christmas ? My husband was asked yesterday at work , have you done all your christmas shopping ? my husband says well we dont have anyone to buy for . Then the co worker asked "oh dont you and your wife exchange gifts and he replied "no we dont have the money this year " . Then the co worker was like oh .She then said " I dont think I could live in a household who does not celebrate christmas .
What is the big deal about christmas ? some people just dont care to celebrate .I dont celebrate because of stuff my mother did every christmas to us kids and I dont care to elaborate . Is anyone else out there not celebrating christmas ?
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Old 12-22-2010, 07:36 AM
 
Location: In my ponytail dreams
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I am so sorry that you have so negative christmas memories. Christmas means so different thing for different people and it is not have to be mean anything for you if you do not want that.

Many people have extra day offs from work and some likes day offs so YaY for christmas.That is already one thing to celebrate even I do not know do you like day offs or not...

I hope you can still enjoy some peace without stress and candless (if you like them) for next days.


It is not weird at all if you do not celebrate christmas
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Old 12-22-2010, 07:46 AM
 
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I dont celebrate xmas. I dont think its weird. People ask me all the time what you are doing for xmas. Instead of informing people I dont celebrate xmas i just lie and say I dont know yet because I dont need the negativity.
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Old 12-22-2010, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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1) have you done all your christmas shopping ?

2) "oh dont you and your wife exchange gifts

3)" I dont think I could live in a household who does not celebrate christmas .
I wish he responded:

1) Yes. Since we do no xmas shopping we're always done. Instead we take the money and invest it instead of blowing it on junk that will end up on the bottom of teh closet.

2) No, We're comfortable with what we buy; We have no need for silly customs based on supernatural events. Traditions and superstitions are not a basis for making wise purchasing decisions.

3) Celebrate xmas? Why? Because you've been brainwashed to think the birth of some obscure person (from stories in a troublingly inconsistent book of myths) is god? We simply aren't that delusional.
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Old 12-22-2010, 07:53 AM
 
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I hear you. I have almost no family and so there isn't really a lot to celebrate with.
I'm not sure why its my fault for having no family or why that makes me weird and suspicious but I sure feel judged a lot.
I would love to have a huge family, just didn't work out that way.
I can't buy one

1) People like reassurances that they are doing what everyone else is doing. When they run into someone that isn't they don't want to start to question 'you mean there are options' am I not doing the normal thing? So they put it on you.

2) I think the easiest, requiring the least amount of thought, way to feel normal, like an accepted part of the herd, etc. is to compare yourself to others that don't seem to be. "I'm ok, they are not".

3) A lot of people feel vaguely threatened by anyone operating outside the norm.

I can continue to theorize but I honestly I have no idea why other than human beings are wired a certain way and our culture reinforces it.

The cardinal rule.

Anyone not conforming = independent = loners = bad.

For people at work - honestly I would suggest vague lies. They are just being social and its not that important.
You don't want to be singled out at work, loners are the first to go.
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Old 12-22-2010, 09:53 AM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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My favorite day of the year is December 26th. All the BS is finally over.
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Old 12-22-2010, 10:17 AM
 
Location: Charlotte county, Florida
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I dont think there is anything weird about it and have been wondering why I celebrate Christmas myself.
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Old 12-22-2010, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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I dont think there is anything weird about it and have been wondering why I celebrate Christmas myself.
I do like the smell of a real xmas tree.
I do like company paid week and half off.
I like discounts on electronics.
I don't like all the extra high calorie food everywhere at home and at work.
I don't like any holiday related media (TV shows etc)
I don't like the pressure the holiday brings to buy things.
I don't like the unnatural (artificial?) dynamics between people. If I don't like someone, xmas isn't going to make me like them any more. I'd rather someone was genuinely not nice to me than to fake it. I can deal with knowing someone doesn't like me - it happens to everyone - but it is hard to deal with fake phony balonies.
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Old 12-22-2010, 11:06 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn New York
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My favorite day of the year is December 26th. All the BS is finally over.

I usually go with Jan 2, then it is really over.
After all these years, the whole Holiday thing to me is such a bother.
Ugh, you have to this, you have to that, get the gifts, get then cards. this one didn't send to me, I'm not sending to you.What do you want, i don't know what I want.
It doesn't fit, I hate it.

I could go on, but I wont.

Love Jan 2, it is over....and my tree is down and packed away till the next year
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Old 12-22-2010, 03:18 PM
 
Location: Murfreesboro (nearer Smyrna), TN
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Why do folks seem to think it weird if you dont celebrate christmas ? My husband was asked yesterday at work , have you done all your christmas shopping ? my husband says well we dont have anyone to buy for . Then the co worker asked "oh dont you and your wife exchange gifts and he replied "no we dont have the money this year " . Then the co worker was like oh .She then said " I dont think I could live in a household who does not celebrate christmas .
What is the big deal about christmas ? some people just dont care to celebrate .I dont celebrate because of stuff my mother did every christmas to us kids and I dont care to elaborate . Is anyone else out there not celebrating christmas ?
I am Christian but I don't make a big whopping deal about Christmas, either. When I was single, I didn't do anything at home for Christmas, no tree, decoration, etc. I went to families and exchanged gifts and had dinner, but without Children in the mix, there isn't a lot to do, from my point of view. Since I have children now, I do all the Christmas things, if for no other reason than to let them know this is not just another time of year.

Charles Sands
Smyrna, TN
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