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If you and your girlfriend were not ready to become parents, for whatever reason, you did the right thing.
Every child deserves a stable home, with a mother and a father who can financially care for them and want them more than anything else in the whole world.
There is nothing valiant about short changing the rest of your lives because of an accident.
This is a very hard, cruel world, best to wait until you can give a child the advantages it will take to live a good, happy life.....instead of a life of unhappiness and unnecessary struggle.
It is easy for arm chair quarterbacks to sit in their comfy homes with their nice secure jobs and tell other people what they should do.
And don't forget this, most of them would cry, moan and look down on you, your girlfriend and your child if you had to rely on THEIR tax dollars to survive.
Your girlfriend did what was right for both of you. Unlike others here, I believe your girlfriend is smart enough to make the right choice without interference from stangers.
Move on, live a good life and double up on your BC methods until you are ready to give a child a GOOD life.
I am sure there was a perfectly lovely adoptive couple out there ready and willing to give the child everything it would need for a wonderful life. No need to worry about money for this child at all.
Many would still give tax dollars to help though, if need be.
When I went to the place yesterday with my partner, there were about 7 people getting an abortion ( most of them were kids ) . The doctors denied 2 people of having it because the girls had a full belly.
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Originally Posted by Annie53
Tony, don't listen to the nay sayers.
If you and your girlfriend were not ready to become parents, for whatever reason, you did the right thing.
Every child deserves a stable home, with a mother and a father who can financially care for them and want them more than anything else in the whole world.
There is nothing valiant about short changing the rest of your lives because of an accident.
This is a very hard, cruel world, best to wait until you can give a child the advantages it will take to live a good, happy life.....instead of a life of unhappiness and unnecessary struggle.
It is easy for arm chair quarterbacks to sit in their comfy homes with their nice secure jobs and tell other people what they should do.
And don't forget this, most of them would cry, moan and look down on you, your girlfriend and your child if you had to rely on THEIR tax dollars to survive.
Your girlfriend did what was right for both of you. Unlike others here, I believe your girlfriend is smart enough to make the right choice without interference from stangers.
Move on, live a good life and double up on your BC methods until you are ready to give a child a GOOD life.
Exactly. When I have a kid, I want to have a great job with a lot of money. My parents didn't want me to have it because I don't have a good job. Her parents did want to have it though ( which I don't get ). My partner didn't want to have it. She don't even have a paying job. It would have been hard if we kept it. I am catholic and I know it's not right to have an abortion but if you need it for certain reasons, do it.
Did you even consider adoption for your baby? And YES condoms fail, will you be more careful next time, are you still going to depend on that kind of birth control? Are you willing to get another abortion if you have another "accident"?
1. No because she didn't want to have the kid
2. Yes, she will be going on birth control. I am not going to have sex for a long time.
3. It depends but I am not going to let that happen.
That's your decision and I defend your right to make it, but I do hope you've learned from the experience and in the future will used two forms of birth control. It's what responsible adults do...........
That's your decision and I defend your right to make it, but I do hope you've learned from the experience and in the future will used two forms of birth control. It's what responsible adults do...........
I did use a condom. She didn't even know she was pregnant until she got a blood test 8 weeks after.
Yes, and Janelle has promised she will pay any lost wages, doctor's bills, any and all expenses!!
And YES condoms fail, will you be more careful next time,"""
Good grief, ya wanna put it on for him, Mommy????
are you still going to depend on that kind of birth control? Are you willing to get another abortion if you have another "accident"?
So what if they have another abortion??? How does it affect you??? It doesn't....
HOWEVER, I bet you'd support this couple if they went to Iraq and blew up some babies and pregnant women....???? You said you didn't mind paying for that.
Did you even consider adoption for your baby? And YES condoms fail, will you be more careful next time, are you still going to depend on that kind of birth control? Are you willing to get another abortion if you have another "accident"?
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Originally Posted by janelle144
I am sure there was a perfectly lovely adoptive couple out there ready and willing to give the child everything it would need for a wonderful life. No need to worry about money for this child at all.
Many would still give tax dollars to help though, if need be.
She didn't want to go through a pregnancy......that is all the reason she needs to abort.
They both have low paying jobs.....probably no health insurance. This country does not have national health care. Most pro-lifers are also against that too, BTW.
Who was going to pay her for all of the work she would miss? What if it was a difficult pregnancy and she missed a lot of work? Who is going to make up the missed pay? What if she lost her job because she missed too much work? Was some pro-life organization out there going to provide her with another job? Who was going to pay for all of the medical care involved......ALL OF IT.....no matter what complications may have arisen?
What if the baby was born with some type of defect? Would it be adopted or languish in some institution for life? Who would pay for that?
Not all adoptive parents are perfect either......that is a fact. They have also been known to neglect and abuse children. Why should this young couple always have to wonder if their kid got good parents or bad ones?
Tony, abortion is not wrong. It is a responsible solution to an unwanted pregnancy.
Don't let the people out there who have some personal objection to abortion load you up with guilt. You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. Your girlfriend made the right decision under the circumstances. I, and many others here, would have done the same thing.
It's a shame she didn't let her parents help her with the baby, seems they wanted it. I know some parents that don't want the baby because they can't stand the guy their daughter was with.
Anymore you can even stay in touch with adoptive parents if you set it up that way to monitor them.
It's a shame she didn't let her parents help her with the baby, seems they wanted it. I know some parents that don't want the baby because they can't stand the guy their daughter was with.
Anymore you can even stay in touch with adoptive parents if you set it up that way to monitor them.
What don't you GET about "they didn't want the baby, they didn't want 9 months of pregnancy, they didn't want to have a baby"
So what if her parents wanted the baby, it wasn't their choice nor yours.
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