Welcome to City-Data.com Forum!
U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Politics and Other Controversies
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 06-06-2012, 10:34 PM
 
Location: Somewhere extremely awesome
3,130 posts, read 3,053,624 times
Reputation: 2472

Advertisements

I don't mean this in an offensive way at all, and I'm simply trying to get information. Others can set the record straight for me.

What I'm wondering is do you think for men coming out as gay, that they have to reject a male cultural that is defined as gay being taboo? It seems to me like a lot of gay men really consider themselves one of the guys, but you really can't be both, so they live in denial. The guys that everyone knows to be gay are those that don't act like one of the guys. For example, when women talk of their "gay male friend," they're talking about a companion to go shopping with and to shows and things like that, not someone who is going to watch football and drink beer like a straight guy would. I don't think this is true for women because lesbianism isn't considered taboo, and bisexuality in some ways is encouraged (because guys find it hot .)

So - what does everyone think about this?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 06-06-2012, 10:40 PM
 
Location: South Bay Native
16,233 posts, read 27,281,262 times
Reputation: 31477
Are you a guy? If so, you find Rosie O'Donnell hot?

I can't even figure out what the actual subject of your thread is, it seems like you tried to include every cliche about homosexuality.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-06-2012, 10:44 PM
 
15,706 posts, read 11,708,779 times
Reputation: 7019
Quote:
Originally Posted by cbmsu01 View Post
I don't mean this in an offensive way at all, and I'm simply trying to get information. Others can set the record straight for me.

What I'm wondering is do you think for men coming out as gay, that they have to reject a male cultural that is defined as gay being taboo? It seems to me like a lot of gay men really consider themselves one of the guys, but you really can't be both, so they live in denial. The guys that everyone knows to be gay are those that don't act like one of the guys. For example, when women talk of their "gay male friend," they're talking about a companion to go shopping with and to shows and things like that, not someone who is going to watch football and drink beer like a straight guy would. I don't think this is true for women because lesbianism isn't considered taboo, and bisexuality in some ways is encouraged (because guys find it hot .)

So - what does everyone think about this?
Sounds like a lot of generalizing. Most gays are not feminine or flamboyant. Not all gays have a sense of fashion. Plenty of gay guys like football and beer.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-06-2012, 10:45 PM
 
Location: Baltimore
8,299 posts, read 8,573,639 times
Reputation: 3663
I'm pretty sure that this guy was one of the guys when playing in the NFL. Esera Tuaolo just happened to be gay too.
Attached Thumbnails
Okay, I've got another question about our favorite topic of gay people-tuaolo_esera_medium.jpg  
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-06-2012, 10:45 PM
 
2,728 posts, read 5,342,498 times
Reputation: 1785
Quote:
Originally Posted by DontH8Me View Post
Are you a guy? If so, you find Rosie O'Donnell hot?
Yes. And sweaty.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-07-2012, 01:29 AM
 
Location: Southern California
15,083 posts, read 20,396,999 times
Reputation: 10343
Quote:
Originally Posted by cbmsu01 View Post
...

So - what does everyone think about this?
Nothing.

[shrug]
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-07-2012, 01:43 AM
 
Location: South Africa
5,563 posts, read 7,188,949 times
Reputation: 1798
Go to a gay club and tell the bouncer he is a fairy. When you get out of hospital and can type again, we can continue this conversation.

Famous gay men

95% of gay men you would not know unless they told you. They do not hit on straight males. Not all of them flaunt it in public to make a spectacle of themselves (which is their right if they so choose)
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-07-2012, 01:49 AM
 
3,045 posts, read 3,181,325 times
Reputation: 1307
Quote:
Originally Posted by cbmsu01 View Post
I don't mean this in an offensive way at all, and I'm simply trying to get information. Others can set the record straight for me.

What I'm wondering is do you think for men coming out as gay, that they have to reject a male cultural that is defined as gay being taboo? It seems to me like a lot of gay men really consider themselves one of the guys, but you really can't be both, so they live in denial. The guys that everyone knows to be gay are those that don't act like one of the guys. For example, when women talk of their "gay male friend," they're talking about a companion to go shopping with and to shows and things like that, not someone who is going to watch football and drink beer like a straight guy would. I don't think this is true for women because lesbianism isn't considered taboo, and bisexuality in some ways is encouraged (because guys find it hot .)

So - what does everyone think about this?
Gay people, in my experience, are just like the rest of us in that they're all different. I know lesbians who act the same as straight women, gay men who act the same as straight men, lesbian women who are kind of butch and gay men who are really, extremely gay.

You're probably thinking about it too much. As for watching football, where I live, everyone I know does that and most everyone drinks beer too.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-07-2012, 01:59 AM
 
Location: In the Redwoods
30,286 posts, read 51,739,844 times
Reputation: 23653
Lots of gay men drink beer, even the cheap "manly" brands, and many watch football too - hey wait a second, they even PLAY football sometimes! Wow, imagine that. They can also be friends with straight males, as my straight baseball-playing brother can attest to (his best male friend is gay). Just as not all straight guys are into beer, football & farts, not all gay men are opposed to those things. Heck, one of my BGFs can chug a beer in seconds, and then fart the room empty.

Generalize much? Even Jerry Falwell would say your stereotypes are tired, LOL.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 06-07-2012, 02:01 AM
 
16,433 posts, read 22,109,572 times
Reputation: 9622
not my favorite topic...
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:


Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Politics and Other Controversies
Similar Threads

All times are GMT -6.

© 2005-2024, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top