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I've heard experts say that in this situation it may be a good idea to go out there and slap (not too hard) the woman too. The assailant will often become disorientated at that point and flee the scene. Kind of risky I suppose but it might just work.
I'd suggest that anyone doing that would end up in jail on assault charges.
Alot of interesting responses: "Video tape it and call the police." Great idea.
NOW, how many of you would be willing, truly willing and not internet, i am going to lie through my teeth willing, to give your complete name, date of birth, address, phone number, etc to the police? Oh and more over, walk into a court of law and TESTIFY against the batterer.
Yes, most of you on here will say they would. However, in REAL LIFE, MOST of you would not and would not.
I absolutely would NOT be willing to give ANY of my personal info to the police, nor go to court....but that doesn't mean...at all...that I'd sit by and watch a man beat a woman.
Candid answer....This is the way most people feel about DV.
I'll throw out a rough figure, typically a women in DV leaves her abuser 7-8x during the course of the relationship and returns for the honeymoon phase.
As a result, they lose the support of everyone they know which adds to the isolation. Without going into all the possible scenarios, getting out of these relationships isn't always as easy as making the decision to leave.
And, when they decide to leave and get a restraining order, that's the most dangerous time period of getting hurt or killed. She's dam*ed if she stays and maybe worse if she leaves.
I've heard experts say that in this situation it may be a good idea to go out there and slap (not too hard) the woman too. The assailant will often become disorientated at that point and flee the scene. Kind of risky I suppose but it might just work.
This has to be one of the most, if not most, bizarre things I've ever heard. Was this an expert who was irrational or on drugs or both?
My dad went out there to yell at this guy beating up his girlfriend, and I told my dad to stay inside and call the cops.
What should you do? Stay inside and call cops or go outside yell at them+call cops?
Thx
I've only seen this like 4 times in my whole life. Two of those times it was the lady beating on the man and I just watched because I thought it was funny. I kept waiting for the man to defend himself but neither ever did.
The other two times were where both were arguing. The man would say something, the lady something back (both were pretty much cussing each other out) and he would hit her. Then he'd say something, she would say something, and he would hit her. Once was at a park and the other time was at a red light. I asked both ladies if they needed some help and both times I was told where to go and what I could do once I got there! Neither of the men ever said a word to me, it was the lady getting beat wanting to suddenly attack me. Fine! Hit her some more for all I care!
If it's not a Travon Martin punk on top bashing her head in the ground or using a weapon most of the time there really isn't a need for anyone. Cops only make things worse for them, the kids, the rest of the family, and makes taxes go up. Unless I thought immediate injury was about to happen I'm staying out of it. Calling the cops/getting involve to stop a death or serious injury is wise, anything else is unwise.
This has to be one of the most, if not most, bizarre things I've ever heard. Was this an expert who was irrational or on drugs or both?
Actually it was my bartender, he's extremely qualified and practically a scientist. It seemed a bit odd to me too but I double checked with him and said that he was also in Nam and sometimes they had to destroy a village in order to save it. So there is a certain logic behind his thinking.
I absolutely would NOT be willing to give ANY of my personal info to the police, nor go to court....but that doesn't mean...at all...that I'd sit by and watch a man beat a woman.
Exactly. And therefore, for criminal justice purposes, your "intervention" is worthless. Yes, worthless. You may have "stopped" the issue for the moment. However, the second you are gone, it will be there again. And again, and again, and again.
Without people coming forward and willing to be witnesses, the vast majority of suspects will walk out of a court free and clear. And then you all will scream: The police let him go. The police cannot be everywhere, every second, of every day. We need people to come forward and have the balls to carry it through. Not hide in the woodworks and say, "Its not my job or responsibility." That is the cowards way out; which, is the vast majority of the general public. Cowards.
Screw the cops, break it up. The cops will be too long and chances are, the lady will not press charges and end up leaving them both there to continue. I've seen it happen. Break it up and get the offender away from whoever he is beating.
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