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Old 04-16-2013, 09:29 AM
 
Location: SW FL
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I will start off by saying that this is in no way meant to be a misogynistic, women bashing thread. I don't mean to paint with a broad brush and say that all women have poor ethics, as that would be incredibly ignorant. I'd just like to point out some off putting patterns I've noticed over the past few years that I think are worth mentioning. Most people I'm sure are aware of these patterns, but I thought I'd share my thoughts anyway.
One red flag that presents itself to me when I am observing the dynamics of women are subtle malicious acts that relate to emphasis on superficial ideals. The most trivial of these being hair/makeup/general aesthetics, to more "big picture" concepts like the overall status/influence/external respect of said woman. It seems like every woman is constantly assessing every other woman under a high power microscope, to scout out weaknesses that would either boost their self image and/or help them get ahead. It can be observed in high school, where women in close quarters will asses and criticize each others dating partners, to either make the couple a model for themselves or to boost their self image, like I said. It continues into the workforce but instead of the high school football player winning the bread it's the high profile banker/politican/etc. There seems to be somewhat of a cutthroat vibe that can be worth than masculine bullying in my opinion. I remember reading a quote that illustrated this concept: "Men by nature are indifferent to each other, while women are each others enemies."
What I laid out in that first paragraph was how women effect each other negatively by placing too much emphasis on superficial ideals and competition to achieve these ideals. That does not even skim the surface of how they effect other men. While I understand and respect that women have genuine gripes about the hedonistic tendencies of men, I must say that a woman can break a mans heart in a way that is hard to explain. It seems as if some women seek dominance so thoroughly that they lead men through sporadic ups and down in relationships. I think this is attributed to the fact that they view having increased control over their man as a sign of increased status. They are able to tell their friends at the hair salon that they have so so and so on a tight leash. They believe this would yield respect from other women and desire to be on the right side of the rock when it comes to the role model/follower concept. When they decide that it would be in their best interest to dump the man, they do so and actually expect condolence from their peers as a result. Once again, they achieve a sense of instant gradification by achieving this superficial condolence, as it also boosts their self image.
Women bring life to this earth, and I am greatful for that. Once again, I don't mean to paint with a broad brush and place women under a single cloud of a negative stereotype. These are just some patterns that have deterred me from engaging in the dating scene as much as others. Superficiality, and desire for dominance in relationships are the main things that I am concerned with. Thoughts/opinions welcome.

 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Texas
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I think you watch too much Real Housewives.

I am not saying these women don't exist.
I just don't think this is the majority of women.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:31 AM
 
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Well obviously you did mean to paint women with a broad brush or you wouldn't have felt the need to type this.

Some women have poor ethics. So do some men.

Your comment about men being indifferent to each other, while women are each other's enemies are just silly...otherwise there wouldn't be male on male violence.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:41 AM
 
Location: Asheville NC
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LOL OP you are very very young and obviously have not had a real girlfriend. When you get to your Seattle College, maybe that will change. There are all types of women, and I know you are familiar with Myers Briggs, competition and dominance depend on personality, not gender.

Having been a real "real housewife", I can tell you the reality shows are hogwash. A real friend, of either gender, is just that-a real friend. I have many.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:42 AM
 
Location: SW FL
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Well obviously you did mean to paint women with a broad brush or you wouldn't have felt the need to type this.

Some women have poor ethics. So do some men.

Your comment about men being indifferent to each other, while women are each other's enemies are just silly...otherwise there wouldn't be male on male violence.
Right, but there typically needs to be something to warrant that action. Men do not care about out doing other men in looks/relationships/etc.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:43 AM
 
Location: NY
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If you are not intending to paint women with a broad brush with your post, what is the point? I am struggling to seperate what looks like a sweeping generalization on women from the fact you indicate it is not.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Right, but there typically needs to be something to warrant that action. Men do not care about out doing other men in looks/relationships/etc.
Ok.
You are either 12 years old or have never actually met another human being before.
Welcome to our planet.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Men do not care about out doing other men in looks/relationships/etc.
They don"t? That's news. Many men are extremely competitive about many things from work to sports to women.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:44 AM
 
Location: NY
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Right, but there typically needs to be something to warrant that action. Men do not care about out doing other men in looks/relationships/etc.
What?

In my younger years, I knew plenty of men who loved to brag about how many women they had. How is that not competition?

Or, what are competitive sports all about?

Some men are very conscious of style and looks too. Men's fashion is not just for the delights of the female eye.
 
Old 04-16-2013, 09:44 AM
 
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Right, but there typically needs to be something to warrant that action. Men do not care about out doing other men in looks/relationships/etc.
I wouldn't so sure about that.
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