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Old 04-30-2013, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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LOL @ "tons of friends" and "my sister". I'll just leave you with this. Have a great day!

Melanie Notkin: My Secret Grief. Over 35, Single and Childless
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Old 04-30-2013, 12:52 PM
 
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That's cool and everything. Fortunately, I'm friends with women in my HS class and most are in the mid to late 30's. Those that didn't have children are undergoing fertility treatments, have given up (aka "taking a break"), or are desperately seeking sperm donors because they can't land a man. But like I said you should report your findings because you seem to be around a very unique group of people.
Next time lets try facts vs. a rant, shall we?

"Many women are waiting until their 30s and 40s to have children. In fact, about 20 percent of women in the United States now have their first child after age 35. So age is a growing cause of fertility problems. About one-third of couples in which the woman is over 35 have fertility problems."
Infertility fact sheet | womenshealth.gov


According to the federal government, 20% of women wait until over the age of 35 to have their first child, and 33% of those women require fertility treatments. That's not IVF either--it could be as simple as taking fertility drugs for a few months. I don't see that as being a big deal.
Infertility fact sheet | womenshealth.gov

While your fertility does start to decrease over age 30, it's hardly a dire situation. As I said earlier, 40 and up becomes a lot more iffy. You're also failing to take into account the number of young women with health issue like endometriosis who have a difficult time getting pregnant at any age--those women will never have an easy time getting pregnant.

"The incidence of infertility now affects an estimated 12 percent of couples of reproductive age. In fact, a healthy 30-year-old woman has about a 20 percent chance per month of becoming pregnant, and that chance falls to only about 5 percent per month for a 40-year-old woman."

Fertility Fact vs. Fiction: Women Recognizing Age as a Major Obstacle | HealthyWomen

And for the record, I'm in my 50s. I know lots of women my age who DID wait until their 30s to start having kids--they put marriage AND children on hold for educational and career goals, and they've done just fine. It may have taken them a few months to get pregnant, but they all have families. I guess I should expect this kind of stupidity from someone who talks about marriage as "landing a man."

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Old 04-30-2013, 12:56 PM
 
Location: Tyler, TX
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hey I only had OBGYNs and fertility specialists telling my wife this. What do they know?
They know that if they tell you that you don't need their services, then you won't pay them for their services.

I'm in the trucking industry. If I told you that you needed to purchase a 2014 Kenworth to move your belongings across town, should you take my word for that and run out to buy one? After all, I'm an expert! Or would you think about that expensive purchase and realize, "Hey, I can just rent a U-Haul to make the move!"

It's not very often that I take the advice of someone who has a financial interest in my following it without doing my own independent research. The more money involved, the less weight I give their advice, and fertility treatments aren't exactly a dime a dozen.

Just sayin'.
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:00 PM
 
Location: Baltimore
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LOL @ "tons of friends" and "my sister". I'll just leave you with this. Have a great day!

Melanie Notkin: My Secret Grief. Over 35, Single and Childless
*LOL* You are going off of what your high school friends tell you and a first-person perspective piece.
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:01 PM
 
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LOL @ "tons of friends" and "my sister". I'll just leave you with this. Have a great day!

Melanie Notkin: My Secret Grief. Over 35, Single and Childless
Which is exactly what you tried to justify yourself with--that's why people are laughing at you. Just a tip--next time try using real data vs. trying to pass your opinion off as "facts."
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:05 PM
 
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At first I thought this seemed interesting, but later:



"trapped" in a relationship? That's what we get when we raise people afraid of confrontations. LOL

Seen At 11: How Can Twenty-Somethings Deal With A Quarter-Life Crisis? « CBS New York
I think we've raised a society of wimps who are unable to succeed or even function on a daily basis without constant praise and a pat-on-the-back from those around them.

And when times get tuff, they get pathetic. <insert smiley face>
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Baltimore
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Which is exactly what you tried to justify yourself with--that's why people are laughing at you. Just a tip--next time try using real data vs. trying to pass your opinion off as "facts."
Are you sensing any irony given the thread? Sounds like the OP wants a medal for procreating, doesn't it?
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:15 PM
 
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I know most of the damn old folks here don't give a but there are some of us who weren't coddled as kids but are not immune to feeling discouraged about their chances in the world especially with the employment and education situation today. I have a Bachelor's degree in a decent major but I'm trying to break into another field with better employment prospects and am currently trying to get into grad school. So technically I'm doing something about my situation.

But please continue with the millennial bashing. I am just a stupid 24 year old kid so what do I know?

And yes I will get off of your lawn.
Our oldest son is 20 and a college student--this is what we're telling him. Breaking in to your field and getting your first job is your first hurdle, but once you're there you'll still have to prove yourself over and over to move up. You'll need to bust your backside and constantly expand your skills to be marketable. If you're having trouble getting a job in your field, make sure that you have the best qualifications you can get, and then try to get every shred of experience you can (with glowing references) to back up your resume. It may mean internships, it may mean volunteering extensively (especially in your field if you can)--anything to get your foot in the door. You may wind up taking a job that you're vastly over qualified for, but at a company in your field that has potential for movement up. It also means networking. If you're part of a fraternity where alumni help with job networking, or if your college has job search resources supported by alumni, take advantage of them. If you do internships or volunteer, don't be afraid to ask those groups to pass along your name as well. ANYTHING that can put you in connection with people who will help you along the way is a big plus. It may take time, but you'll get there. It's a very competitive job market right now, but if you have sterling qualifications AND you work on the networking part of it, AND you're willing to start at the bottom and prove yourself, something will happen for you eventually.
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia
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I am 25 and truly am going through this! It is real! Well, I like my job. I don't like current aspects of my living situation.

I just got on anti-depressants last week though. Hopefully this can help me.
I don't know you or your situation but that is a terrible, terrible solution IMO and will not solve anything. Smoke some mary jane if anything but stay away from these awful prescription drugs out there.
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Old 04-30-2013, 01:18 PM
 
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Are you sensing any irony given the thread? Sounds like the OP wants a medal for procreating, doesn't it?
Ya think?
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