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It's why I cut off any relationship with a dad before it can get to that level. The simple fact is once a couple marries according to law both salaries are their money. In that situation two things will come out and it's either the new wife paying the bills or the new wife supporting the kids. Both bad situations.
Again, we do not have enough information to accurately judge much of anything here. If she was a lawyer was she working part time to care for the kids?
We simply do not know if any of the judgement was initially out of line. Was it fair to give her $17k a month? Who knows.
It's so easy to see that you're a card-carrying misogynist lol "nazi-feminist" indeed. OMFG.
SO, let me get this straight. Some girl held a gun at her hubby's head and said, "You @#$#@, you're going to @#$# support me as I stay home watching Jerry Springer, and you're not going to say a word about it!" Is that what you're saying? Or are you saying that you don't know what the hell you're talking about, and that they have an arrangement in which one is at home and the other one is outside the house? Which is it? Take your PICK.
Actually she is a nice woman (They have dated since they were 13 or 14... the one time they broke up BOTH were ABSOLUTELY MISERABLE) and she is MUCH more likely to be reading a book or working in the garden than watching TV... but yes. SHE was the one who decided... incase you hven't noticed human evolution women typically can twist us guys around their little finger.
My GF does it to me, my little sister does it to me, and (Excluding the woman beaters and other scum who should be put down) us guys are pretty much OK with that.
It's when the split happens and the claws come out that a guy FINALLY protests... otherwise it can go on for a lifetime.
And I'm ANYTHING BUT a misogynist. I LOOOOVE women...
And I throughly enjoy spoiling the women I date (One woman at a time)... my GF says She's NEVER been spoiled like I spoil her... and says she feels bad because I do it too much.
But if she dumps me.... I'm not going to keep buying her stuff and taking her (Sending her then I guess) places!
Your Pick... (But I know your going to keep ignoring it like you ignore/Attach whenever you can't answer)
I am a woman, and a feminist and this is beyond bs. Alimony in most cases is just legal extortion plain and simple. I understand giving temporary alimony to a spouse who stayed out of the workforce to raise kids but then re enters the workforce or for those who are too old to become employable. I do not support it otherwise.
This is partly why I avoid divorced dads like the plague because many end up paying for their ex wife and the new wife often has to help support this lazy dead weight too.
You have an axe to grind against SAHM's. I've seen other posts of yours.
You are NOT a true feminist. Other women fought for your right to HAVE A CHOICE whether to work or stay home to raise your children.
Since you have none - calling a SAHM 'lazy' is rich. You have no idea.
This from a full-time working Mom.
That said - the only alimony I've ever seen awarded was temporary - long enough for the SAHM to finish her degree and get a job.
Unless she's an invalid. You've described her as an invalid. (I think you're probably lying your hairy posterior off).
No. I said she 'goes back to bed' and 'gets up and eats and watches TV'.
While she gained alot of weight once they were married she is fully capable (Other than the fact that her knees hurt... the Dr has warned her she needs to loose weight or her knees will get worse.)
She's actually a pleasant person, and very intelligent... just doesn't want to work, and doesn't keep the house as clean as I'd like (But I'm a little OC... so some of that's me.) I consider BOTH of them friends... which has made me take one or another side when I get dragged into things...
I'm not saying he's perfect, he smokes (She only does occasionally) and likes his beer... but he provides and helps at home both.
And it becomes worse if the new wife wants kids but can't afford them because of the steps. Seen that scenario often.
Yup! Divorced men with kids are just bad news. When divorced men don't have kids, it's not so bad.
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