Do spouses automatically deserve half... (independence, elect, million, security)
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Pretty much. If I had been a gold digger, I would have gone with the lawyer not the student working part time as a grocery clerk.
It's funny how many women I know all over the world...and not one of them a golddigger.
I must know some magical mystical segment of the population who farts out light and rainbows.
Somebody who stayed at home IS GETTING A COMPARATIVE LUXURY AND IS GETTING A FAVOR DONE TOWARDS THEM. They shouldn't get 50%. All people should go out and get a job on their own.
And the husband who comes home to a clean and maintained house, food in the fridge and on the table, clothes in the closet, bills organized and paid, clean, fed, and educated children, and who never has to sit up all night with a sick kid or never has to use vacation days to run errands or to wait for the cable guy or plumber is not getting a luxury service?
When a person is at home all day, you can see the ample amounts of wiggle room they have to pursue their own activities like go on the computer, Farmville, spas......BUT STILL LIVE AS IF they studied, had all their time gone in the week, had the innate intelligence, etc. And speaking from experience and knowing many SAHM's and their husbands, we know the true motivations behind the whole day cooped up in a house where they don't have to commute, have more leisure time than the breadwinner and so forth. There is NO BOSS impinging on your leisure time when you're at home all day.
If that wasn't true, why would many wives BALK at switching roles with the husband? That is instant divorce initiated the woman, and you can find many links substantiating that. Actions speak louder than words.
I haven't spent any days as a stay-at-home parent, because as a guy, I don't have that power in the dating world. Therefore, men's only choice is to WORK or starve or take welfare, and not be taken care like I did when I was with my parents.
I may not have any SAH experience because of gold-diggers, but I have plenty of REAL-WORLD work experience however as a technical contractor, so I know of what I speak in my previous post.
You must associate with a bunch of *******s. Seriously.
I stayed home and my husband worked. The few days he had to take care of our kids because I had surgery was a disaster. He readily admits he'd MUCH rather work than stay home because it was too much work.
Hell if I was travelling the world, going out to lunch everday on the company dime and could come and go as I pleased I'd rather work too.
AbsolutePwnage, you are so very wrong on so many counts. If a couple decides that there should be a SAH parent, who do you think needs to go earn? The one who makes the most money. The fact of the matter is, men outearn women. In the same careers. So guess who stays home? It's not rocket science. In some cases, mind you, the man earns less and stays home. We have a couple of these households in my neighborhood, alone.
You're just angry & bitter & throwing rocks. Get over whatever injustice was allegedly done to you.
And the husband who comes home to a clean and maintained house, food in the fridge and on the table, clothes in the closet, bills organized and paid, clean, fed, and educated children, and who never has to sit up all night with a sick kid or never has to use vacation days to run errands or to wait for the cable guy or plumber is not getting a luxury service?
No, its not a luxury service. It means someone did something they are supposed to, no more no less. Besides, which fantasy novel did you find such a scenario anyway?
No, its not a luxury service. It means someone did something they are supposed to, no more no less. Besides, which fantasy novel did you find such a scenario anyway?
That's exactly how my house was growing up.
My father didn't lift a finger at home.
My mother did *everything*.
No fantasy.
No, its not a luxury service. It means someone did something they are supposed to, no more no less. Besides, which fantasy novel did you find such a scenario anyway?
That was pretty much my life until I went back to work this year. I did my "job" and beyond. He came home and sat down and relaxed...I kept on going until the chores were done and the kids were showered and in bed. The fantasy would have been him helping when he walked in the door every night and NOT expecting praise for doing what he should have been doing.
That's exactly how my house was growing up.
My father didn't lift a finger at home.
My mother did *everything*.
No fantasy.
Yeah, aside from my dad mowing the lawn and taking out the trash, that's how my house was growing up, too.
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