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You know, while it's possible this particular guy is a real dirt bag, the reality is relationships are a work in progress. You sure she doesn't share ANY blame for the failed relationship? I've noticed a trend in divorces, it's ALWAYS the other persons fault, ALWAYS.
My wife and I rarely argue anymore, but when we miss-communicate, there is always shared blame, it's never completely one sided.
We live with many modern conveniences, my grandmother talks about in the 1950's raising two kids in a 20x20 garage house where all 4 of them slept in the same room, her mixing up her own starch to press grandpa's shirts after walking (with the kids) to the help-your-self laundry. After coming home she had to hang the laundry to air dry, cook dinner (no microwave), give the kids a bath, clean up after dinner (she WAS the dishwasher). And yes, she only used cloth diapers.
I think the poor back then had it harder than the poor do today.
I agree with this. I cloth diapers my youngest and it was cost effective AND she was potty trained at 18 months with minimal effort. I was a SAHM who, at the time, probably could have been on some sort of assistance but wasn't. I breastfed and cloth diapered to save money on baby expenses instead.
using cloth diapers doesn't take that much effort. You rinse them, then wash them and that's that.
when my son was a baby we lived where running water was only 3 hours in the morning and 3 hours in the evening - and we did not have the money for disposable diapers for the whole day ( we used disposable for the night) - now, that was a problem, because you had to catch that water time every day.
If one has water running all day long - there is no problem in cloth diaper cleaning.
Cloth diapering is much more complicated that just rinsing out a stinky diaper in the sink.
First, you need to do a cold pre rinse. Then, a hot rinse with a specific type of detergent (which can be $$$). Then another rinse to ensure there is not residue left on the diapers from said detergent. These are necessary steps, as not enough rinsing can lead to an ammonia buildup in the diapers. Most diapers can only be dried on a low heat setting, which takes much more time. I personally dry mine on a clothes line in the backyard. How much money do you think these steps require? Also, many Laundromats will not allow you to wash cloth diapers.
Then there is the startup cost, which can be astronomical. There are the old fashioned diapers, prefolds and covers, and enough to last a single child one day is around $50, for 12 prefolds and 3 covers. That is considering that you need to wash them every day.
So how is an extremely poor person using cloth diapers? They're not. If you're living paycheck to paycheck it's much easier to come up with $20 for the store brand disposables than to pay $50 for diapers that last one day plus frequent washing.
Exactly. If you're doing it at the laundromat, you're paying for three runs through the washing machine instead of one. That $2.00 wash someone here mentioned (most are more expensive, or at the least the ones I've used on vacation were a lot higher) suddenly turns into $6.00 for the load plus the cost of the dryer. I didn't realize that some laundromats won't let you do diapers. I remember that my start up costs for two in diapers wasn't cheap, and that was nearly 20 years ago.
Is this society's problem or her and the dad she slept with? Most of us consider the price of a child compared to the price of birth control. At least this is what a responsible lady would do.....
Cloth diapering is much more complicated that just rinsing out a stinky diaper in the sink.
First, you need to do a cold pre rinse. Then, a hot rinse with a specific type of detergent (which can be $$$). Then another rinse to ensure there is not residue left on the diapers from said detergent. These are necessary steps, as not enough rinsing can lead to an ammonia buildup in the diapers. Most diapers can only be dried on a low heat setting, which takes much more time. I personally dry mine on a clothes line in the backyard. How much money do you think these steps require? Also, many Laundromats will not allow you to wash cloth diapers.
Then there is the startup cost, which can be astronomical. There are the old fashioned diapers, prefolds and covers, and enough to last a single child one day is around $50, for 12 prefolds and 3 covers. That is considering that you need to wash them every day.
So how is an extremely poor person using cloth diapers? They're not. If you're living paycheck to paycheck it's much easier to come up with $20 for the store brand disposables than to pay $50 for diapers that last one day plus frequent washing.
Humans have been using cloth diapers for a LONG time. People with far fewer resources made it work just fine, and millions of children survived the process. Our friend decided to do cloth diapers with her second child, so for her baby shower, she asked for only inserts and diapers. Worked out great, she didn't have to spend a penny.
Clother diapers aren't easier, they are harder, but sometimes you have to take the harder road, because it's cheaper...unless the taxpayers are funding your progeny, then you have lots of spare time to whine about how terrible your life is.
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