Does anybody else believe in keeping man's name in traditional marriage? (solution, status)
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It is simple , some of the traditional man that are masculine men, yes, masculine, have some B*lls, like some say, want the women they marry to take on their name. I should have posted this in the Christian section, as more would agree with my view.
I agree, for a man to take the women's last name or hyphenate his name with hers , makes me laugh out loud, and say, What kind of men are these?!! I laughed out loud when the poster asked if the husband has to go number 1 in the bathroom sitting down too. Haaaaaaa!
I just wanted to see opinions of people, but am disappointed there are some many outlandish, crazy types, that want to take on the woman's name or name the children after the woman! Absurd!
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I'm a man and I don't give a hoot about who's keeping whose names. If two people are committed to each other, it doesn't take a name change (or a marriage certificate for that matter) to "reflect" this union. If this means I have no b-lls, well, my voice is still pretty low.
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I mean, my adopted nephew has my brother's (and mine) last name. He's from asia, but by taking the name it is indicating to the world he is part of our family despite no direct lineage. The basis of that is from the biological, but the practice is now firmly cultural. That doesn't negate the biological basis.
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For a number of people, it was broken. Thus they chose to fix it!
It's perfectly understandable that it doesn't work for some people, especially in this day and age of professional careers, waiting later to marry, and with a few I know, they were only daughters in the family and they wanted to honor their family. Makes sense to me.
Regarding the allusion to Christianity, over 75% of Iceland is Christian, according to Wikipedia. Women don't change their names there, and children's surnames don't match their parents' or even each other's if they are mixed-gender. Surnames are a relatively modern invention anyway. They didn't exist in Biblical times, so changing one's surname is not a "Christian" thing.
I wonder what the situation would be if your wife had some concrete objective reasonnot to do that? Would it still be my way. Period?
If so, I am sorry for your wife!
Evidently, I'm smart enough to have this type of discussion with her before marriage or children come into the picture. Chances are great that no such discussion will even need to be had. I typically go for women whose backgrounds are similar to mine, and where I come from, it's pretty much a given that the wife and children will take the man's name.
I can't imagine the reason that would have the children taking her name.
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