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I know a mother whose son is mentally ill and homeless. She has no idea where he is.
Gay or not, she'd be overjoyed to have him home.
Absolutely. A friend lost her son to an overdose last spring. When I see posts on the internet from people who would disown their children for being gay it breaks my heart.
Absolutely. A friend lost her son to an overdose last spring. When I see posts on the internet from people who would disown their children for being gay it breaks my heart.
Absolutely. A friend lost her son to an overdose last spring. When I see posts on the internet from people who would disown their children for being gay it breaks my heart.
Amen. I have some seriously uptight friends that can't understand my more laid back view and love for family. I'm just sad, I have family that I could never replace with friendship, just a totally different level of bond and am grateful to have it because as I've gotten older I know it's not a given.
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I've had a lot of gay friends, and I generally consider myself to be pretty tolerant.
But, I do have a tendency to sit around all day and psycho-analyze people in a sort of Freudian way. And in almost all cases, there is a perfectly clear reason why someone "became gay".
That doesn't mean it is a choice, any more than it might be a choice to be mentally ill. But there is clear causality, which is itself unnatural(think of girls with "daddy issues" because their father was never around).
Thus, I have a tendency to think of homosexuality as a problem in need of a solution, rather than a permanent condition. And I feel myself always trying to change people(IE to turn them straight).
So, would I be accepting of a LGBT child? If I was to be honest with myself, I might be tolerant(insofar as I wouldn't be outwardly hostile), but I would never be able to accept of their way-of-life, in a truly open sense.
And I think if people could be honest with themselves, they would realize how much of a relief they would feel if their child was "normal".
Does that mean they are intolerant? If I was to say that I will "tolerate" something; It actually means that I oppose it, but I will still allow it. It does not mean I support it, agree with it, or think it is equal to anything else.
One can wish that there child was straight because it would make their life easier while also accepting that it wasnt a choice.
You seem to argue that you cant be one without the other.
As for what I assume is the "trauma" argument, how come those girls with daddy issues didnt just become lesbians ?
As for what I assume is the "trauma" argument, how come those girls with daddy issues didnt just become lesbians ?
You don't just "become a lesbian."
Well, maybe some do. I have relative who had one horrible heterosexual relationship after another. I'm not kidding. Each man was worse than the last deadbeat loser. In her forties, she decided "to become a lesbian." It lasted a few years and didn't amount to much. Then she took up with a man who ended up in prison and decided celibacy was the way to go.
Some people play on both teams, so I guess they could just become a lesbian at will.
But most social workers and teachers I've worked with have been lesbians there whole life.
I do have a distant relative whose wife left him for a woman down the block. But I don't think she became a lesbian. I suspect she was one all along.
Wow. Just wow. That whole statement churns my stomach. WTH....just....WTH....
I was joking when I wrote that, but now that I think of it, I'm pretty sure that if I raised a kid that fell for a con man's lies, I would donate my money to someplace where it would do some good. Giving it to that kid would be wasted on the next con man that came along.
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Selfish,,,,really?
Aside from the biological drive to carry on the genetic line of our ancestors, we give everything to our kids for the most part. We invest time, money, emotion, heartache, etc., etc., etc. So to ask for them to do one simple thing, like we all did that have kids, is hardly selfish.
LOL at your argument contradicting itself.
You put forth the argument that it is so much hard work to have a child, and then admit that your reward should be a grand child,which would be hard work for the parent, but not Grams since you would only have to see this grand child when you wanted to(no real responsibility).
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WTH....just....WTH....
