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We either need to have greater respect for traditional gender roles or we need to take gender completely out of the equation when it comes to family court rulings. Also people need to have greater commitments to their families, above and beyond their own individual wants. Parents can be very narcissistic when it comes to their individual wants as compared to their family's needs and we wonder why so many people in the younger generations are growing up to be so screwed up. Both genders are at fault when it comes to misplaced priorities like this. When a father or mother makes an individual decision they must first and foremost consider how it will effect their entire family. There is a time and a place for individual fulfillment without regard for others and it's called college. Grow up America!
We either need to have greater respect for traditional gender roles or we need to take gender completely out of the equation when it comes to family court rulings. Also people need to have greater commitments to their families, above and beyond their own individual wants. Parents can be very narcissistic when it comes to their individual wants as compared to their family's needs and we wonder why so many people in the younger generations are growing up to be so screwed up. Both genders are at fault when it comes to misplaced priorities like this. When a father or mother makes an individual decision they must first and foremost consider how it will effect their entire family. There is a time and a place for individual fulfillment without regard for others and it's called college. Grow up America!
i appreciate the platitudes...should this, should that...
But dealing with reality as it is- if Dad doesnt pay, courts, Judges, and cops will force him to pay; even going so far to throw him in jail if he doesnt. But if Mom doesn't pay; even if she pays 0 for years and years, no one cares and no one will do anything to her.
If financial support for a child that approximates 25-40% of Dad's gross income is so important, why are those in authority perfectly ok with Mom providing 0 financial support to their child?
In what state does child support (for one child) comprise 40% of Dad's gross income?
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Texas law provides the following Guideline calculations: one child= 20% of Net Monthly Income (discussed further below); two children = 25% of Net Monthly Income; three children = 30% of Net Monthly Income; four children = 35% of Net Monthly Income; five children = 40% of Net Monthly Income; and six children = no less than 40% of Net Monthly Income.
i appreciate the platitudes...should this, should that...
But dealing with reality as it is- if Dad doesnt pay, courts, Judges, and cops will force him to pay; even going so far to throw him in jail if he doesnt. But if Mom doesn't pay; even if she pays 0 for years and years, no one cares and no one will do anything to her.
See the problem?
I was largely agreeing with you. I'm not sure what else you were expecting. It's not just platitudes though. People need to grow the hell up and take their responsibilities to their families seriously.
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I am a divorced dad. I have one son. He is now 23 years old. I split up from my ex when he was 2 years old. I fought for custody. I spent about 75k in legal fees. I received full custody of him. Obviously there was a lot going on which I wont mention lol. I also settled to not receive child support. The only thing I asked of my ex was that she pay half of his activities. Fast forward 8 years and my ex took me back to court for custody. This case cost me 50k. She had stopped paying for half the activities. Again I received full custody. However this time I asked for child support. She was remarried to a multi millionaire. She was not working. She was a stay at home mom to three kids that she had with him. We ended up agreeing that she would pay $600 a month. Not a single penny of that money ever went in my pocket. Every penny was spent on our son. The only reason I ever asked for it was because she felt that she didn't want to pay for half his activities. Otherwise I never would have asked for support.
Looks like someones mommy didn't love them enough as a child.
I also really enjoy how this thread keeps getting revived about once a year.
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