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So...are you saying that, if you had met someone and dated them for a bit, got to know them, clicked really well with them physically, emotionally and sexually, everything felt right and, they weren't a 'twisted' human being, you'd dump them the second you found out they voted (or supported) President Trump?
Yes, it would impact my dating decisions. I have no desire to have an ongoing relation with an airhead or irrational, emotional person. Hence no liberals in my future.
Not directly. Maybe some of their reasoning for certain views could be considered a red flag though.
One of my exes claimed to be a hardcore conservative - he was a staunch gun rights supporter, believed children should be drafted into war, wanted to completely end all welfare, eliminate all environmental regulations, wanted women who had abortions to be imprisoned and sentenced to death, believed that laws shouldn't apply to cops, force LGBT into insane asylums, bring back public whipping of criminals (even for youth), the works.
I wanted nothing to do with and had nothing to do with his politics or political beliefs - we just agreed to disagree on that. And we otherwise got along alright...in the short term.
Well, surprise surprise - he turned out to be stark-raving nuts. He kept pushing marriage and kids on me, after which I was "to be" a housewife. He also suggested that a relative beat their dog - his 'logic' being, and I quote, "If it works for kids, it works for dogs". He also shoved me against a wall because I went to Pride with some gay friends, and then threatened to beat "those ***s" up. I punched him in the face, ran out of his sight until I could catch the nearest bus going anywhere out of there, packed my stuff and hid at my friend's house for a few weeks until I found another apartment, and never answered his calls/messages again except to formally dump him over text.
Being conservative is one thing...but honestly the types of political beliefs he had were just out there, and should've really been taken as red flags from the beginning.
I don't even have close friends who are conservative. I certainly would not date one. This argument about open communication is hogwash. Folks rarely ever change their political views based on reason and debate. We are who we are. A conservative's world view is just incompatible with mine. They might be a good person but I could never overlook their values that are so opposed to my own. My sister is fairly conservative, she's a good person and I love her but, Her world view is, in my opinion, immature and immoral. All the debating in the world does not change her world view anymore than it changes my own. We are who we are. Why would I want to enter into a relationship with someone whose values are so steeply opposed to my own. I seek harmony in relationships, not conflict.
In our marriage we don't agree totally on politics but overall we do.
However when we dated, decades ago, hardly anyone discussed politics so I only found out later but we had similar backgrounds which often relates to similar kind of Javier's.
Politically I have a great relationship. My wife isn't the least bit interested in politics.
Now that I'm more conservative it is great.
It is like having my own liberal. She relies on me for her political views and voting choices. I tell her who is the best candidate and why and just like a liberal she votes that way because of what I said.
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He also shoved me against a wall because I went to Pride with some gay friends, and then threatened to beat "those ***s" up. I punched him in the face, ran out of his sight until I could catch the nearest bus going anywhere out of there, packed my stuff and hid at my friend's house for a few weeks until I found another apartment, and never answered his calls/messages again except to formally dump him over text. 
