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I personally avoid discussing politics like the plague while out on a date (or in a social setting), because in the past, I have always come across people that didn't 'approve' of who I voted for and they totally tried to decimate my political stance and tried (and failed miserably) to change my view to theirs.
I do know that this is an important thing to discuss with a potential SO because it's good to know where they stand politically and to find out if you're on the same page as they are. And, if you find out via discussions with them that they're NOT on the same page as you are politically, then there's a decision that has to be made. I'm sure some people have happy relationships with their SO even if they're on the opposite ends of the political spectrum. But I also know that there are many other people who would absolutely NOT date or enter into a relationship with anyone whose political views were the opposite of theirs.
I think this particular aspect of a person (their political view) would be a sad reason to kick them to the curb for. A person would have to really REALLY be into politics tremendously to throw away an otherwise viable and happy (potential) relationship over the fact that the other person's political stance is different from theirs.
Would you say Sayonara to a date or to a person you've been dating for a while that you're really interested in (and that otherwise checks all the boxes that you're looking for in a significant other) just because their political stance is different from yours? Or would you overlook that and continue to date them?
To answer my own question, I'd give it a shot. Heck, life is short as it is and finding someone to love and share your life with is tough enough without throwing politics into the equation.
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Yeah, probably. I consider myself moderate to moderate-conservative so somebody who's extremely far left probably wouldn't gel with me. It's just different philosophies and that usually trickles over into how one lives their personal life. I think there'd be a huge compatibility issue.
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Originally Posted by SparklesNShine
Yeah, probably. I consider myself moderate to moderate-conservative so somebody who's extremely far left probably wouldn't gel with me. It's just different philosophies and that usually trickles over into how one lives their personal life. I think there'd be a huge compatibility issue.
So, you're saying that if you met a person that otherwise clicked with you (and you clicked with them) on almost every level, including strong physical/sexual/emotional attraction and everything else was awesome, you MIGHT give them a shot? Or would you most likely dump them because of the part of your post I highlighted in bold?
I avoid anyone who is strongly conservative (I also avoid extreme liberals), or strongly religious. I seek balance. We simply won't agree on enough things to be easily compatible, if their views are extreme or lack compassion.
So, you're saying that if you met a person that otherwise clicked with you (and you clicked with them) on almost every level, including strong physical/sexual/emotional attraction and everything else was awesome, you MIGHT give them a shot? Or would you most likely dump them because of the part of your post I highlighted in bold?
I'd give them a shot, but strong sexual attraction doesn't last forever. You need a solid friendship base and shared values to make a relationship successful for the long term. My husband and I don't agree on everything politically, but for the most part we're on the same page. If he was the type of guy protesting and flailing on the ground after the election results, then no, it wouldn't work for me.
More important than whether we agree or disagree on political issues is the ability to remain respectful in debate. If someone condescends or insults or otherwise continually degrades my character based on my politics, it's not a match.
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Political views are definitely gonna be a factor into dating someone or not. I'm support BLM, LGBT causes, atheism, and Muslims. I'm just not going to get along well enough with a "blue lives matter" practicing Christian who supports our current president to want to date them. That is fact.
No. If they cannot debate respectfully, then it's not about politics, it means they're immature. However, eventually, with enough time together, they'll realize my viewpoint is more credible. But that's not the intent, it just happens.
Of course it would. She's a Republican? Dealbreaker. She supports Donald Trump and his aassociation? Dealbreaker. I don't care how nice she is anyone who supports Trump is someone I don't want to be in my life. No exceptions.
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