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Some people just don't understand boundaries. That goes for both men and women. Both sexes need to learn to be respectful of one another. It starts there.
A simple, "you look nice today", is a compliment, nothing more. When a guy or woman says, "hey baby, you look good" and follows you down the street, it becomes uncomfortable and that is when it crosses the line.
People know the difference between a compliment and harassment. It is common freaking sense. Both men and women can take it too far and both should be held accountable when they act a fool.
Treat people with respect and you will get that in return.
I also wonder if some people out there think that catcalling and other similar types of actions fall under the umbrella of “complimenting” and are getting bent out of shape about people not liking their “compliments”.
I would hope by now most who are not Neanderthals have figured out that's a no-no. I do wonder though when there's TV soda commercials (from a year or two ago) showing women ogling or leering at a shirtless construction worker who's drinking a soda...
Is complimenting a woman's looks harassment? Is asking her out for drinks harassment?
To be safe from the accusations it is best to turn your head and look the other way in presence of women. You will be called rude, but its better than being called a sexual predator.
Exactly!
As for the number of marriages, many of us have been married more than once. No big deal.
In fact, I have him beat. He has been married three times, resulting in 5 children, IIRC.
I have been married three times, with 2 children from each wife. For those who are math challenged, that is 6 kids!
No, it isn't a contest, just pointing out the facts.
And the end of those unions must be all your fault...
Hope no one is upset if I bump this, but I do have genuine question: Lots of talk is about how men talk about women's looks in the work place and how inappropriate it is, and even how he should be possibly disciplined, but I am curious, do you think the same should apply to women that make comments regarding other women? I've worked in many a offices with women and DISCLAIMER: I realize not all women do this, but I have heard many times a woman talking and/or criticizing other women for their looks/hair/clothes etc. etc. do you think those women should be able to face the same kinds of disciplinary action as if a man said the same kinds of things?
From what I have gathered from my girlfriends a guy just mentioning how nice a woman's top or skirt is could get him in big trouble, but women in the office are free to ridicule and criticize other women about anything they are wearing or how they look and little to nothing is ever done to them about it.
Hope no one is upset if I bump this, but I do have genuine question: Lots of talk is about how men talk about women's looks in the work place and how inappropriate it is, and even how he should be possibly disciplined, but I am curious, do you think the same should apply to women that make comments regarding other women? I've worked in many a offices with women and DISCLAIMER: I realize not all women do this, but I have heard many times a woman talking and/or criticizing other women for their looks/hair/clothes etc. etc. do you think those women should be able to face the same kinds of disciplinary action as if a man said the same kinds of things?
From what I have gathered from my girlfriends a guy just mentioning how nice a woman's top or skirt is could get him in big trouble, but women in the office are free to ridicule and criticize other women about anything they are wearing or how they look and little to nothing is ever done to them about it.
The definition of sexual harassment is specific. People who don't really understand it can take it out of context and also exaggerate what it really means. Making critical remarks about someone's appearance or clothing isn't it. If a man makes a general comment about a woman's dress that also isn't necessarily harassment. These sorts of comments might be unwelcome and in poor taste (which falls into the realm of a conduct issue), but in themselves do not reach the level of harassment. One simple example is the difference between making a comment like
"You look attractive today." or "I like that color on you."
versus
"You sure look hot in that blouse!" or "women in short skirts really make this office a great place to work!"
Harassment level behavior is usually frequent and severe enough to interfere with the targeted person's work, especially if they come from someone who has authority or power over the person. It has to be unwelcome and still continue even after the person has been told to stop. For your information, here is a link that explains what sexual harassment is and isn't.
Telling a woman she looks nice today is probably OK. Reciting the lyric's to Nine Inch Nails' "Closer" as being what you'd like to do is over the line.
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