Now I don't think what I seek is all that much.
A. mutual attraction.
B. common interests and worldview.
c. Faithfulness (in behavior and deed)
D. non-materialistic.
E. seeking life long monogamy.
F. no kids at home.
6 things out of 100's of possible types and criteria etc etc.
I have found women with a few of those traits, I have met a few with all of those traits(sadly they arent in the dating pool because they are usually happily married.).
The only women who seem to contact me on OLD sites and apps who are seeking the same type of LTR as me are ones with a built in roadblock to having said relationship, such as demanding job(hardly ever around no time for a relationship anyway), young kids at home or one that is becoming way to common they live hours away out in BFE.
Meanwhile when I drag myself out to try and meet someone in real life I meet otherwise wonderful women I click with and lives conducive to being in a relationship(no kids or grown kids long moved out no demanding job, no real responsibilities, etc etc), but the problem is they have no interest in being in one, yes they want to hang out with me, they are even willing to have sex go on multiple dates etc etc... but they have no interest in being exclusive.
It's very depressing as it tells me I'm good enough to "hang out" with or be an FWB, but not viewed as good enough to be a one and only.
And most of the advice I get is well meaning ways of saying "through money at the problem".
Such as finding a higher paying job, join activities you enjoy etc etc...
Well most activities I enjoy turn out to be sausage fests when I show up.
Well I don't want to change jobs mine is stress free and most jobs that I've made more money at were full of stress and made me miserable 5-6 days a week. If I met the right woman today with the rest of my life as is I would be a pleasure to be around if I met the right woman and I had a stressful but high paying job or heaven forbid ......career
. I would still be stressed.
I feel like I have no good options. I feel like a romantic living in a world that killed romance.