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Is there a point to these kinds of self congratulatory and grandstanding 'viral' moments? Totally inappropriate to discuss that kind of private stuff on a big moment on stage.
Brave person...
Let his words bear witness to what a gay person can achieve
And I am sure he was lauded and congratulated and held up as proof of excellence until he revealed the truth about sexuality...
Your sexuality is as much about the person you are as your GPA—more so...
the poster asked why someone would feel the need to announce their sexuality. I gave him a reason and an example of it.
No, you assumed that poster has asked it. Sure there are nosy people but you should not assume everyone is of that character. Plenty don't give a darn who you sleep with and also don't feel anyone needs to announce it as a badge of honor. LGBT are no more special than anyone else.
There arent really any valid reasons to do so, but people do it, whether to be nosey or "expose" someone or so on and so forth. It happens.
I shouldn't tell this.....LOL. My wife dated a gay man before I met her. Her parents and his were friends. From what I understand the signs were many. I could see her asking at some point "are you sure you aren't gay"?
From what I've heard he is in a long term relationship with another guy and doing well now.
So there might be the rare occasion where the question is valid.
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I shouldn't tell this.....LOL. My wife dated a gay man before I met her. Her parents and his were friends. From what I understand the signs were many. I could see her asking at some point "are you sure you aren't gay"?
From what I've heard he is in a long term relationship with another guy and doing well now.
So there might be the rare occasion where the question is valid.
I disagree.
Dating is experimental, and men are pretty much told you cant be bisexual. So while he and your wife may not have worked out(good for you), that doesnt mean he wasnt actually attracted to her.
I recently had this conversation with a friend who was into a guy but thought he may be gay, my advice to her was to simply ask him if he was into her, not specifically women. Because the flip side of this argument is pissing off a straight guy by questioning his masculinity or your(her) perception of it.
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No, you assumed that poster has asked it. Sure there are nosy people but you should not assume everyone is of that character. Plenty don't give a darn who you sleep with and also don't feel anyone needs to announce it as a badge of honor. LGBT are no more special than anyone else.
I actually said probably, which is a percentage change, not an assumption of guilt.
not sure why you care though because instead of debating the subject, you are nitpicking over arbitrary things.
Would like like it better if I said " someone has likely asked him the question"
Dating is experimental, and men are pretty much told you cant be bisexual. So while he and your wife may not have worked out(good for you), that doesnt mean he wasnt actually attracted to her.
I recently had this conversation with a friend who was into a guy but thought he may be gay, my advice to her was to simply ask him if he was into her, not specifically women. Because the flip side of this argument is pissing off a straight guy by questioning his masculinity or your(her) perception of it.
Maybe........but every situation is likely different. But rare.
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Maybe........but every situation is likely different. But rare.
I dont think it is all that rare, atleast in the context of someone who actually is LGBT, or those who dont meet traditionally masculine standards.
using myself for an example, people asked my sexuality all the time. It gets tiring, and some people choose a public coming out because of it so they dont have to be asked when a random friend or family member gets the mental urge to ask.
I think this student did it for 2 reasons, the second being to bring awareness to BYU, and its own students
I dont think it is all that rare, atleast in the context of someone who actually is LGBT, or those who dont meet traditionally masculine standards.
using myself for an example, people asked my sexuality all the time. It gets tiring, and some people choose a public coming out because of it so they dont have to be asked when a random friend or family member gets the mental urge to ask.
I think this student did it for 2 reasons, the second being to bring awareness to BYU, and its own students
It doesn't matter to me why he did it. He worked hard to earn the right to say what he wanted. Period.
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