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What if your son/daughter told you that....they are gay/lesbian?
What would you do?
What would you say?
Would you accept him/her as they are?
Would you love him/her unconditionally?
Would you try to convert him/her to a heterosexual?
I would shun them, perhaps disown them. I'd send them to a shrink and perhaps a conversion center, have the living daylights electrocuted out of them to make sure they change into normal people. I'd give them every reason to want to change, damnit! What shame they would bring on the family! What my neighbor and coworkers say is far more important to me than the silly kid's happiness. When I have my kids it will be to make me feel better, to accessorize my life and damnit if they ruin my effort for a perfect family and don't fit into my set of goals for them and superstitions about life.
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Originally Posted by Trabbz
What if your son/daughter told you that....they are gay/lesbian?
What would you do?
What would you say?
Would you accept him/her as they are?
Would you love him/her unconditionally?
Would you try to convert him/her to a heterosexual?
I would be dissappointed but I understand that is a choice nature made and that they didn't and I would accept it. It ain't the worst thing they could tell you.
I would be dissappointed but I understand that is a choice nature made and that they didn't and I would accept it. It ain't the worst thing they could tell you.
That about says it. Not much else you can do really.
Not really PC but I'll admit to wondering if I did something wrong as a parent. . . . one does miss much of what life has to offer, imo, if going through it gay. . . . but it's better than living a lie; hiding in a closet for an entire lifetime.
I'm waiting for a good friend's son to tell his parents he is gay. I am certain they will be distressed but also certain they will not disown him.
The post by twilomike is about a self centered and mean as I have ever read. Being more worried about you own status and pride instead of you son's happiness is really pitiful.
I have no kids but their happiness would be paramount if I did. As long as they are nice, kind and decent human beings I could not care less what their choice of partner is. If the person they fall in love with them is good for them, will love and comfort them and bring them joy and fun and companionship then who am I to judge.
I would much prefer to have a happy Gay son than a heterosexual one in a miserable straight relationship.
Love is love. We should be celebrating love not decrying it because it does not fit certain narrow-minder societal precepts.
My only worry would be bigotry from others but being true to yourself is more important than cultural conventions IMO.
My only concern would be :
Are they Happy and loved ?
Are they Healthy?
Are they safe?
The rest really isn't that important.
We ALL have a right to love and be loved. It is a basic human right.
Who we fall in love with should have no impact on the way we are perceived by others. As long as we do not harm others and are good people then who bloody cares ?
What if your son/daughter told you that....they are gay/lesbian?
Probably look them in the eye and say, "Umm, okay".
What would you do?
Probably avoid making any references to potential grandchildren and use substitute "girlfriend/boyfriend" for "boyfriend/girlfriend".
What would you say?
See question #1
Would you accept him/her as they are?
Probably. They are just sleeping with and wishing to form relationships with adults of their own sex, not doing anything evil. Gross if you're not into that kind of thing, but certainly not disgusting in any moral or ethical sense.
Would you love him/her unconditionally?
Love is sorta conditional to begin with, but I doubt homosexuality would be something that would case me to cease being attached to someone. Maybe see them in a slightly different manner, but it won't change everything else that has happened in a lifetime.
Would you try to convert him/her to a heterosexual?
How would I pull that off in the first place? I guess anal sex is like jazz, you either dig it or you don't.
.. one does miss much of what life has to offer, imo, if going through it gay. . . .
Really? What do you mean specifically? What do you think your child would be missing out on? It certainly adds stress to one's life, but I don't see how one is missing something, aside from being able to bear biological children with one's partner.
I would, say I love you. Thats it because for me it would not be an issue. I mean as long as my child is happy, good to themselves and others who care if they are gay or straight. Yes I would worry about them being hurt and treated badly, however it would be the same worries if they were staight.
I'm waiting for a good friend's son to tell his parents he is gay. I am certain they will be distressed but also certain they will not disown him.
The post by twilomike is about a self centered and mean as I have ever read. Being more worried about you own status and pride instead of you son's happiness is really pitiful.
Wasn't it obvious he was joking? Maybe he wasn't though. The line about "what my neighbors/co-workers think about me is more important that some silly kid's happpiness" (paraphrasing) was what tipped me off. I could be wrong, though.
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