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Social media is part of the problem. Social media is making dating/mating more difficult, not easier, for the average guy. Women on the other hand just feel overwhelmed with options.
Not buying it. Swiping left, swiping right, so many dating sites, etc…, folks don’t even have to leave the house to find each other. One couldn’t possibly meet so many people as can be reached online.
We know many who partake in such sites, especially younger folks.
Not buying it. Swiping left, swiping right, so many dating sites, etc…, folks don’t even have to leave the house to find each other. One couldn’t possibly meet so many people as can be reached online.
We know many who partake in such sites, especially younger folks.
I’ve heard people say those sites are basically 10-15% of men sleeping around with all the women. That makes all the women write off the bottom 85-90% of men while they wait on the right top 10-15% man…which could mean sleeping with a lot of those men, spending years on the market and claiming “good men don’t exist anymore”.
My theory is that in online dating men will on a scale of 1 to 10 (combination of looks/success/personality) have to date 2-3 numbers below. For example, men that are 8s can get women that are 5 or 6. Men that are 6s will get women that are 3 or 4. Men 5 (average) or below and women that are 1s will struggle to find anyone.
Last edited by GoAmericaGo; 05-26-2022 at 06:37 PM..
I’ve heard people say those sites are basically 10-15% of men sleeping around with all the women. That makes all the women write off the bottom 85-90% of men while they wait on the right top 10-15% man…which could mean sleeping with a lot of those men, spending years on the market and claiming “good men don’t exist anymore”.
Even if true, it provides a lot of options, and one doesn’t even have to leave the house to find them..and it also depends on what you’re looking for depending on what sites one chooses.
Even if true, it provides a lot of options, and one doesn’t even have to leave the house to find them..and it also depends on what you’re looking for depending on what sites one chooses.
It provides an overwhelming amount of options for women. OLD isn’t a great option for 80% of men…probably would have better success meeting someone at work or through friends.
It provides an overwhelming amount of options for women. OLD isn’t a great option for 80% of men…probably would have better success meeting someone at work or through friends.
There’s also a lot of options for men, and there’s certainly older dating sites. That’s certainly an option. More options the better.
There’s also a lot of options for men, and there’s certainly older dating sites. That’s certainly an option. More options the better.
A lot of options does not equate to a lot of success. Dating sites (old or new) just aren’t that great the closer to average you get. An average women on the other hand could have 100s of suitors within a few days…and that’s why you’ll hear so many women using the word overwhelmed.
Check out this book
"Why men want sex and women need love" by Allan & Barbara Pease
Just because our societies have changed with the emancipation of women, with things being different now for us, does not mean the chemicals and hormones in our bodies have changed to adjust to the new culture. Human bodies have been working like this for thousands of years, they cannot change as quickly as culture changes dictate.
It turns out there is a real chemical difference in the way men and women react to relationship stuff and there is masses of data which has been collected for decades to support the views expressed.
These are just a few things I noted down quickly but there are loads more - all backed up by research from various countries. Well worth a read just for interest.
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Women use a mans "resources" as a base measurement, men use youth, health, and beauty as theirs.
Alcohol cause low levels of seratonin which to our brain makes the girl at the other end of the bar far far more attractive (but we all know that, dont we).
in 2008
1) the average age of grooms was 34 and brides 32. (+3 years for both for second marriages)
2) average age of first time mums was 30 (1 in 6 use IVF for conception due to low fertility rates)
3) Average age of divorce is 44.2 (men) and 41.3 (women) in 2007.
4) around 40% of children conceived out of marriage.
5) 36% are married in church.
6) around 80% of couples sleep apart where one partner snores.
Chemically, it takes roughly one month for every year of a relationship has lasted for you to get the person out of your system and move on.
Almost all (100%) of a small study (156 healthy male) participants were found to have a major health crisis in mid-life who had a low "warmth and closeness" relationship with both parents.
People who feel loved live longer in a healthier way than those who do not.
7 types of "love" identified
"Sweaty T-shirt experiment". Women asked to smell the T-shirts of a range of men. The result was, the closer a mans immune system was to the womans (brother/father/uncle/etc), the less likely they were to be attracted by the smell.
A lot of options does not equate to a lot of success. Dating sites (old or new) just aren’t that great the closer to average you get. An average women on the other hand could have 100s of suitors within a few days…and that’s why you’ll hear so many women using the word overwhelmed.
Few things are a guarantee, and you’re assuming only women have many suitors everyday. Some success is better than no success.
Few things are a guarantee, and you’re assuming only women have many suitors everyday. Some success is better than no success.
Like I said, men that are top 10-15% might get a lot of suitors. More average men and below are likely to get zero. Plenty of people online have ran simulations with fake profiles to show the attention various people get despite profiles having the same “about me” descriptions.
It is what it is hence the title of the thread. Some men will keep jumping through hoops hoping one day someone will give them attention and others will say the heck with it and focus on something else.
Like I said, men that are top 10-15% might get a lot of suitors. More average men and below are likely to get zero. Plenty of people online have ran simulations with fake profiles to show the attention various people get despite profiles having the same “about me” descriptions.
It is what it is hence the title of the thread. Some men will keep jumping through hoops hoping one day someone will give them attention and others will say the heck with it and focus on something else.
Only top 10-15% of men might get a lot of suitors? Yet, I've heard good looking guys come a dime a dozen. Oh, well, maybe homely guys also come a dime a dozen.
Right, you are how homely guys have to focus on something else in their lives. There are a bunch of hobbies out there. A lot of them like playing video games.
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