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Location: THEN: Paso Robles, Ca * NOW: Albuquerque, NM
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I also want to add that even though there is no excuse for poor customer service (it is a service job after all), serving is an exhausting job. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who take those jobs not because it suits their personality but because they need the hours/money/etc.
I'm not sure if people are getting more sensitive or if the definition of appropriate behavior is changing. Even though television shows (supposedly) aren't meant to influence cultural changes (it's the chicken or the egg question: does television influence society or society influence television?), just look at the "acceptable/appropriate" behavior within a Leave it to Beaver-type show versus MANswers, reality shows, Greek, etc. Whether for good or for bad, we can no longer attribute a 1950s-sense of decorum to our culture today.
...they see the cage door closing on them...
..they are waiting for the other shoe to drop... on their heads...
..they are expecting a pick slip, eviction notice or over due payment call...
...they are worried sick about the next attack from a foreign enemy....they know its coming, subconsciously...but they also know that we are all wide open and vulnerable, basically helpless, and this makes people nervous and jittery...and since they're not mature or experienced enough to deal with such adversity, they lash out....
...they know that there is NO light at the end of the tunnel....only more darkness....
...they know that life will NEVER again be as good as it WAS.....NEVER.....
just look at the "acceptable/appropriate" behavior within a Leave it to Beaver-type show versus MANswers, reality shows, Greek, etc. Whether for good or for bad, we can no longer attribute a 1950s-sense of decorum to our culture today.
On the other hand, watch some old 30's and 40's pictures on Turner Classic Movies. People were much ruder to each other in those movies than they are in more modern films. The smart-aleck remark was the stock in trade of "cool" private eyes and the Bogie wannabees. Children were aways chased away with insults. Women (except Bette Davis) were expected to be docile victims of whatever was handed out. Trades people and customers treated each other with disdain if not outright hostility. Uniformed police were consistently suspicious, hard-nosed and reaching for their holster.
Wow, you're full of bs in non-GLBTQ-related threads, also. But your comments are ironic, since you're the person who wants gay people to have their own island. I think you're the one who has a problem with having to live alongside people who aren't exactly like you.
Sorry, but I haven't lived in a majority-white area since I was a little kid, and it hasn't made the bulk of us incapable of common courtesy in the grocery store, etc.
LOL!!!
If the gays lived on their "mono-cultural" island then they wouldn't have to deal with (booga, booga!) "hate", nor dish it out either. Your example (gays in conflicts) is yet another example of the failure of multi-culturalism.
Kindly don't make personal attacks, try reading Robert Putnam's book "Bowling Alone" -- at least google it. It is not "BS".
Diversicrats can theorize all they want but when the USA starts getting cranky, it's due to multi-cult conflict. Didn't you see the Oscar winning movie "Crash"? That is EXACTLY what we are talking about here.
God help us all if we have a true Great Depression 2 in this country, you won't see people lined up in civilized queues like the last time around.
On the other hand, watch some old 30's and 40's pictures on Turner Classic Movies. People were much ruder to each other in those movies than they are in more modern films. The smart-aleck remark was the stock in trade of "cool" private eyes and the Bogie wannabees. Children were aways chased away with insults. Women (except Bette Davis) were expected to be docile victims of whatever was handed out. Trades people and customers treated each other with disdain if not outright hostility. Uniformed police were consistently suspicious, hard-nosed and reaching for their holster.
Wow, I DVR those movies all the time, and feel just the opposite.
I have read the OP and low and behold, I didn't see one mention of any members names in it. So lets all try to stay on topic here and refrain from making this about each other.
If anyone feels that bullying is becoming the norm, the best thing you can do is not participate and in fact, project the opposite. Acceptance, compassion and love.
I fear that bullying has always been the norm but that we are now less tolerant and speak out when we notice. I try very hard not to bully as I was raised by one. As soon as I was large enough (14 yrs old) I informed him the bullying me could be painful. He stopped bullying me but switched to my mother who had been conditioned to take the bullying and never complain. The resulting breakup dumped us, but not him, into real poverty.
In our society executives, police and bosses in general have been given permission to bully and intimidate. This may be why I have difficulty with these people.
As far as the isolation of the individual is concerned this is the concerted results of a political, cultural and business effort aimed at preventing people from trusting each other enough to create a populist political party of join effective unions. The bullies love the system they have created.
The world is run by 1 million evil men, ten million stupid men, and a hundred million cowards. (From the autobiographical novel Shantaram, by Gregory Roberts.)
I don't see it *quite* this simplistically, but the theme does sound familiar.
MultiCulti might bring strife, but I think that's just an excuse. From caveman days to the Greeks to the Hueguenots to modern times, people have found a way to categorize each other, judge each other, and then the friction begins.
Bullying has always been around, but as GregW says, we do speak out more now.
Technology has had an interesting effect on the immediacy of human contact.
Cellphones, laptops, Ipods...we're all connected, yet at the same time, so isolated.
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