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The only thing I know, is that Asian Males visiting the US are advised to purchase prophylactics at home as they are advised that the US brands are too large.
Only stereotype I ever thought was a very proud, tenacious work ethic and honorable. That's a wonderful, good thing! Perhaps unrelenting dedication to work or craft hurts personal relationship potential (just no time to split more evenly)? Maybe that's the question? Think doctors, unless they've already been long married :>)
I think many Asians have deep rooted insecurities that they need to get over before they can become attractive to anyone.
I'd also disagree with the poster who stated that Asian females are at a disadvantage. They seem to go wild over the white meat (ANY white meat), and in turn can get it. So this leaves Asian males, who sadly, for various reasons, are not highly sought after in the dating pool, dateless.
Yes, Asian females at this particular moment in history can get dates fairly easy. Just by waking up in the morning. But in the long run, many Asian females are developing a dissatisfaction of being targeted by white males having Asian fetishes, and/or dating them because of rumors about the sexuality of Asian women.
They're at a disadvantage because many times they are expected to live up to a stereotype that they fall victim to (submissive, docile, etc.). God forbid one of them gains 20 lbs. after a few months of dating. There's many white males dead set on marrying an Asian woman, and view them as a savior from the westernized woman. So, they need to always retain their "Asianness". Consequently, what has been happening is, some white males who once stated that they were the most wonderful creatures on the planet, after finding out they're human (that some dig for gold, high maintenance, demanding, etc.) take a complete turn the other way and berate them.
Asian women are stereotyped just as much as Asian males. However they are more exploited. There's a number of posts in this thread stating that young white girls are taking an attraction to young Asian males. It shows the power of media portrayal. This doesn't come from the American media. It inevitably made it's way over from overseas as a result of globalization.
It's really the same thing that helped develop the attraction to Asian females phenomenon. There has always been interest in Asian females where they were exposed more directly to white males like military bases overseas. But it wasn't until globalization brought the image of the Asian woman in westernized fashion that the apparent current craze hit. That and a very large immigration of Chinese into the U.S. and Canada after '97. During China's heavy handed communist reign, our media was more likely to show us the plain Chinese woman wearing men's clothing, and working in sweat shops and in the fields. Eventually we started getting imported movies from HK, Thailand, and Korea (including more porno), J-Pop, anime (which is apparently the equivalent to a XXX porno flick to some people). Now all of a sudden, white people, even in southern and mid-western States who never gave an Asian woman a 2nd look, act as if they were just given a revelation from Heaven concerning beautiful Asian women.
I'm a white girl who had dated 3 Asian guys. I have always had a "thing" for Asian men; yes, I think they're hot, generally speaking. I'll take Chow Yun Fat or Jackie Chan over Brad Pitt, anyday!
(Then I married a blonde-haired, blue-eyed man. Sure do contradict myself, don't I?)
Anyway, the only problem I had with my Asian boyfriends... and for all I know this could've just been their specific personalities and I'm not stereotyping all Asian men here... but they worked SO much that our relationship always took a backseat.
The most extreme example was Jeremy, my 39-yr-old divorced Chinese immigrant cutie. Lived outside DC, was an electrical engineer full time, was in the National Guard, was working on his 2nd master's degree from Johns Hopkins, and taught 3 college courses on the side. The guy pulled in 6 figures but it was never enough. Whenever he spent time with me, he had to trade it out in sleep because it put him so far behind on his work. We were doomed from the beginning. I think a lot of it has to do with his upbringing... being pushed to produce so much from the days he was a student in China.
The only thing I know, is that Asian Males visiting the US are advised to purchase prophylactics at home as they are advised that the US brands are too large.
I don't know if I would believe that. Don't they make different sizes of condoms? (Also don't know if I would believe that about Asian men.)
I just read a post on interracial dating and marriage which prompted me to come up with this idea.
Asian males seem to be at disadvantage.Being Asian is okay,but being Asian male is not that great.
Will white/black/hispanic females take Asian males into account when it comes to dating and marriage?
Poor Duckster...I knew you were Asian when you first posted on my thread. I could tell by your broken English. I am not criticizing, I think its charming. A couple of years ago I worked with a guy and his family who were Asian and they spoke the same way. This guy was so incredibly intelligent and could do anything. If he couldn't do it, he could certainly make you believe he could! I think it's more the language barrier than anything, and not so much being Asian. I would have dated this guy if he hadn't been such a con-artist! And, by the way, he had a very beautiful Asian girlfriend. Hang in there and think about all of those other things I told you so you can find the RIGHT girl, no matter what her race.
I'm a white girl who had dated 3 Asian guys. I have always had a "thing" for Asian men; yes, I think they're hot, generally speaking. I'll take Chow Yun Fat or Jackie Chan over Brad Pitt, anyday!
(Then I married a blonde-haired, blue-eyed man. Sure do contradict myself, don't I?)
Anyway, the only problem I had with my Asian boyfriends... and for all I know this could've just been their specific personalities and I'm not stereotyping all Asian men here... but they worked SO much that our relationship always took a backseat.
The most extreme example was Jeremy, my 39-yr-old divorced Chinese immigrant cutie. Lived outside DC, was an electrical engineer full time, was in the National Guard, was working on his 2nd master's degree from Johns Hopkins, and taught 3 college courses on the side. The guy pulled in 6 figures but it was never enough. Whenever he spent time with me, he had to trade it out in sleep because it put him so far behind on his work. We were doomed from the beginning. I think a lot of it has to do with his upbringing... being pushed to produce so much from the days he was a student in China.
Ducksberg, this is a very valid point. I didn't think about this but it is very true. The guy I told you about was the exact same way...the only reason I knew he had a girlfriend is because she would have to come to work with him to be able to spend any time with him.
The only thing I know, is that Asian Males visiting the US are advised to purchase prophylactics at home as they are advised that the US brands are too large.
I just read a post on interracial dating and marriage which prompted me to come up with this idea.
Asian males seem to be at disadvantage.Being Asian is okay,but being Asian male is not that great.
Will white/black/hispanic females take Asian males into account when it comes to dating and marriage?
Okay I accidently came across this post/forum because I'm actually working on a research paper about Asian Males/Black Female relationship and how stereotypes (especially surrounding sexuality) have been known to hinder/inhibit such unions from even beginning.
This is more so an interst for me b/c first I am the product of a Japanese father (Nisei) and Black mother who are high school sweethearts and have been together for what will be their 27th wedding anniversary (but my older sis will be 30 so that tells u something lol). And it is an understatement to say that my family does not invoke curiosity in folks; and we always recieve sometimes disrespectful commentary from onlookers/friends/associates/strangers.
Also, while doing this research there is really little to NO research done on this type of pairing and I'm exploring why it isn't as prevalent as say BM/WF or AM/WF, etc.
And as far as my own dating styles I have primarily dated Black men or Black-mixed or Black Hispanics, only one male who was Blasian like me and his mother was Japanese and his father was Black. However, I've always been really interested in Asian men (I lied earlier, i did have a little boyfriend who was Korean back in the 1st grade hehehe), but I too have found roadblocks to dating Asian men.
But anyways thought I would share the living product of such a union and here are some photos:
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