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you can forgive someone, but not be with them anymore because you value your self and your own emotional security... I mean.. it's different if the cheater says they were wrong and that they want to work on their marriage. But coming out and saying that the woman is your soul mate and you're in love with her... I think it's pretty clear where everyone stands.. is it ****ty? of course.... Life is ****ty sometimes.. but have enough dignity and respect for yourself to be honest and not drag other people's heart strings through your personal mess.
I couldn't ever be angry at someone for falling in love.. even if that meant they fell out of love with me... I would be angry at the situation, and probably feel victimized in a way at first.. but in the end.. I would think that it could have just as easily been me... love is fluid.. and if it strays.. it was either never there in the first place.. or it is the result of both party's involved in the marriage...
I also believe for most men, and many women, sex can exist seperate from love... which is why in many cases infidelity can be overcome and a marriage can be saved... but in the case where your heart has strayed... it's a bit more difficult.. and Its time for some serious honesty and soul searching...
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