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View Poll Results: Is marriage sacred?
Yes 58 41.73%
No 81 58.27%
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Old 12-05-2009, 02:52 AM
 
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I honestly don't think so. Look at our divorce rates. Fifty one percent. Dang. That is over HALF the marriages in this country.

It is not about love anymore as it is about tax breaks. That is the only reason I think I would get married. Don't get me wrong, I love the one who I am with but we can be together and in love without getting married. You don't need to be in love to get married. But I want the tax breaks when we eventually decide to settle.

I actually know someone who married their friend just for tax cuts and they are getting it.

I don't think marriage is sacred or necessary anymore.
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Old 12-05-2009, 02:56 AM
 
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the law changed marriage. what we call marriage now is a law suit begging to happen.
a phone call to sleazy n breezy divorce attorney can get you a 1/2 million settlement. turn your malice into cash. worse community property law added to credit discrimination law, means her card debt is now your card debt. dont tell me its only half--- baloney, its a "negotiated settlement" that means you pay the cards.
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Old 12-05-2009, 02:57 AM
 
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the law changed marriage. what we call marriage now is a law suit begging to happen.
a phone call to sleazy n breezing divorce attorney can get you a 1/2 million settlement. turn your malice into cash. worse community property law added to credit discrimination law, means her card debt is now your card debt.
I feel for people who go through that. That sucks majorly.

But do you think marriage is sacred?
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Old 12-05-2009, 03:00 AM
 
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Marriage, in the eyes of the law, is a legal contract. Whether it's sacred or not depends on the feelings of the individuals involved. I don't consider it to be, personally.
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Old 12-05-2009, 03:02 AM
 
Location: southern california
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I feel for people who go through that. That sucks majorly.

But do you think marriage is sacred?
sacred as in the religious concept? its a sacrament but the law has defiled it. btw marriage failure is 50% but marriage itself has fallen 50% since 1975. its a double whammy. that is why you see so many frustrated angry women. hard to build a nest by yourself. womens movement made good on many of its promises, but women are far from pleased with the results.
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Old 12-05-2009, 03:04 AM
 
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sacred as in the religious concept? its a sacrament but the law has defiled it. btw marriage failure is 50% but marriage has fallen 50% as well since 1975. its a double whammy. that is why you see so many frustrated angry women. hard to build a nest by yourself. womens movement made good on many of its promises, but women are far from pleased with the results.
Naw. I am cool. I am going to college. I will try to find a good job. I will get on my own. I don't need a man to support me.

I am pleased with the results and can build my own nest.
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Old 12-05-2009, 03:06 AM
 
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Naw. I am cool. I am going to college. I will try to find a good job. I will get on my own. I don't need a man to support me.

I am pleased with the results and can build my own nest.
then why the OP? it was not a "i am pleased" OP.
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Old 12-05-2009, 03:07 AM
 
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then why the OP?


Obviously because I am interested in what others have to say.
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Old 12-05-2009, 04:57 AM
 
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the law changed marriage. what we call marriage now is a law suit begging to happen.
a phone call to sleazy n breezy divorce attorney can get you a 1/2 million settlement. turn your malice into cash. worse community property law added to credit discrimination law, means her card debt is now your card debt. dont tell me its only half--- baloney, its a "negotiated settlement" that means you pay the cards.
I actually know some guy whose wife cheated on him, and due to the no-fault state he was living in, had to give the house to her because he still had a daughter to raise, and he moved out and had nowhere to live.

My question is, when people get shafted or when their marriage fails, why do they attempt to marry again? And again? Do they seriously think practice makes perfect? I just do not get it. Do they think marriage is some kind of magical protection or spell that will keep things together?

It almost feels like people who are in love get married because they are AFRAID if they don't, their relationship might not work.

I'd suggest that when you ARE in love, the LAST thing you should do is get married. Because that is when your head is in the clouds. Wait until you simmer down, then take a cold, hard look at this person. When you get all the facts and checked this person inside out, then re-consider. And when you decide you can accept this person, their friends, their job, their family, their reality, their habits, likes and dislikes, and you can live with it, then get engaged. Give yourself at least a year to do that just in case. You have a year to back out in case something comes up. And oh, never be with someone because of their "potential". You'll be severely disappointed.

Most people don't bother being so thorough unfortunately. It's just not very romantic to be so ultra-realistic.

For some like the ones you illustrated, marriage is nothing but glorified prostitution. I'll give you this if you give me that. At the very least, it's a business transaction. Unconditional love? Unheard of.
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Old 12-05-2009, 05:12 AM
 
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it should be sacred, otherwise you are being a hypocrite by taking the vows.

don't get married then and don't make promises you don't intend to keep. that would solve it......

Last edited by floridasandy; 12-05-2009 at 06:25 AM..
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