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If I didn't want to have kids, I wouldn't have gotten married. What's the point? A piece of paper and a party that waaaay too much $$ was spent on? Nostalgia? Tradition? Getting the "A-ok" from gramma to live in (what gramma considers) sin?
I don't "get" the defining factor that a piece of paper has on a relationship that is supposedly out of genuine love and commitment if kids aren't ever going to be involved. Much easier to part ways if not married without kids than IF married without kids.
agree. I honestly don't understand it when people say that getting married will alter their relationship. in a sense, it will, but only in terms of legalities and labels. how you feel about each other isn't really going to change (are you going to love a man/woman more as a hubby/wife vs a long term BF/GF?). if you're in a relationship where you are honestly thinking "I could walk away from this easily", you obviously aren't truly committed to that person, IMHO, and shouldn't even think of getting married. only when you start thinking "I could never walk away from this" should marriage be considered, but by that point, I honestly don't see how marriage could strengthen such a bond. as someone else here pointed out, I think there's more of a social aspect to getting married, but if you have nothing to prove to the world, no need to go through the motions if you don't want to (granted, I can't, at the moment, think of a reason not to get married, even if it just involves going to city hall, unless you want to keep assets separate).
I hate to do this, but I'll bring up an example in the celebrity world. look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, unmarried yet together for decades. I don't see how being officially married will change that. on the flip side, you have someone like Britney Spears. frankly, the former relationship seems far more stable than any of Britney's marriages
as for children, in the grand scheme of things, I think it's best for the parents to be married b/c it does add more security.
I put other as marriage is a formal public declaration of a union between a couple who are supposed to be commited to each other till the day they die.
LOVE and COMPANIONSHIP.....I'm gay...I understand the procreation part...but not all of us are physically capable nor want children. The world's population is already too high....humanity will go on regardless...unless we have a planetary disaster or destroy ourselves through WARS etc.
Well marriage has been about financial security for many milenia. Only recently in the course of human history has romance been brought into the mix and not in all cultures. Arranged marriages involving doweries are still common through many parts of the world. Which basically makes a woman like I don't know a car. I mean she needs to be young her value depriciates as she gets older since she pump out as many babies and the man buys her off the lot after haggling with the sales staff ie her parents. So glad we don't have that in America. Although many in arranged marriages are very happy and feel that their parents being older and wiser make better decision makers in such matters.
For the record I picked romance since well a good friend or dog can provide companionship.
They get married for many reasons: companionship, physical attraction, financial protection, to make a commitment. . . . Many even get married, and stay married, because of love.
I think your question is skewed, because you cite a link that discusses government involvement with marriage. Of course people marry another person because they love them, want to commit their lives to them, and are physically and psychologically attracted to them.
The proper question to ask, under the context of government involvement, is why do governments, and private citizens promote, endorse and encourage marriage. It's because of the children that men and women produce, not because of companionship or love. And yet the subject of marriage has become so distorted, that when I took the poll only 3 people selected children, and 16 selected companionship.
Someone to bring me snacks and beer while I'm parked on the couch watching football.
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