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Parents, children, and teenagers always assume that people who never want children are child phobics. They're viewed as selfish, immature, irresponsible, and that no one wants to mate with them. For some reason, people are always asking singles "Why don't you have kids" or "Do you want kids"
If I've ever received harassment from parents, it would usually be from mothers or women who want kids. But I've gotten criticism from some men too.
What's wrong with people who never want kids? What is the perfect answer to "Why don't you want children" or "Do you have them"?
I look down on people who have children with NO thought as to whether they like them or not....
A.NOT EVERYONE is a good parent. Not everyone is INTERESTED in raising children(sadly some of these are parents!)
B. Anyone who says they love ALL children gives them NO respect as individuals....and ALL children are NOT likeable.
C. Being selfish is doing what you want...NOTHING wrong with that if it hurts no one else. PARENTS include children in their selfishness...WITHOUT asking them!
D. Humans are N O T animals (or shouldn't act like them). They should THINK before they commit to a lifetime commitment. Praise to the SMART ones who do!
I'm not sure. Maybe because being a parent requires a person to be selfless most of the time... I don't know why that is the impression I get.
So a person decides to do what they want(definition of selfish) and have children...and they didn't SELFISHLY do what THEY wanted?
THEIR selfishness included innocent bystanders(children, who never asked to be born).
Child free people are ALSO volunteers, volunteer caregivers, philanthropists, are in loving generous relationships, aid extended family........ pretty narrow minded to think that ONLY parents aren't selfish.
I've never understood how not having kids was selfish of me. Did the parents around me decide to be noble and have a child for the greater good or something like that? I don't think so. They're just not selfish because they're devoting all their time and energy to a single human being. Whereas I have time to contribute to the community, volunteer, and help lots of people. Who's selfish again?
If anyone is interested, I found a really funny childfree blog at babyoffboard.com
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No, I am actually happy they gave some thought as to whether or not they are cut out for parenthood.
Too many people buy into the belief that if I am not married by a certain age and don't hurry up and have kids, then I am worthless. I think that is awful. In my hometown, if you are not married by the age of 20, you are looked down upon. Well, welfare use is rampant, teen pregnancy is rampant in my hometown, and I see tons of kids who are going to grow up to be thugs because they have no real guidance. Many girls in my high school class started having kids at 14 and their lives are miserable.
No, but I do look down on people who look down on others for want children. And don't try to say that doesn't happen because it does. Stay out of my personal life and ill stay out of yours.
I don't look down on anyone just because they choose not to have children.
But there are some childfree people who need severe attitude ajustments.
And there are people with children who need severe attitude adjustments as well. I saw it many times as a teacher. There are some parents out there who want nothing to do with their children. Some men just make babies and walk out. Women just get themselves knocked up for the purpose of receiving a welfare check.
I get sick of people in my hometown looking down on me because I am 31, not married, and don't have kids. It is my life and I want to wait to meet the right guy and get married before I have children. Many of the people who look down on me have started having kids at 14, have no education, have had multiple divorces, and use the welfare system. I think that having kids before you are ready or just simply don't want them is incredibly selfish.
The world is over populated. All of our Social issues are caused by too many people around. Why would I want to propagate the problem by adding more people into the mix?
Parents, children, and teenagers always assume that people who never want children are child phobics. They're viewed as selfish, immature, irresponsible, and that no one wants to mate with them. For some reason, people are always asking singles "Why don't you have kids" or "Do you want kids"
If I've ever received harassment from parents, it would usually be from mothers or women who want kids. But I've gotten criticism from some men too.
What's wrong with people who never want kids? What is the perfect answer to "Why don't you want children" or "Do you have them"?
In any case, scr*w those who have an opinion about whether or not you want kids. It's your life, not theirs. Life is too short to be concerned about whether others approve of your decisions.
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I'm not sure. Maybe because being a parent requires a person to be selfless most of the time... I don't know why that is the impression I get.
